ninjachk08 Posted December 17, 2008 Report Share Posted December 17, 2008 Ok, last night, Hubby and I was having a talk about fighting/arguing. We've talked about this before, and now i want to see what other's have to say.He thinks, that when you're mad, you tell lies, but hurtful to "win" the fight.I think, when your mad, that whatever you say, is the truth. even if it is hurtful. discuss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mandova Posted December 17, 2008 Report Share Posted December 17, 2008 Are you having married life crisis too? JKWhen I am mad I get loud. I say things that I feel.....not always the truth. (much better to stick to the truth in an argument)I have learned lately that calm fighting is much better than emotional fighting. You get more out of it. You see the other side more clearly, you hurt less when it's over too.Good luck. Fighting is healthy, but it should be worth fighting for or else you do more damage than healing...ya know? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dweezel Posted December 17, 2008 Report Share Posted December 17, 2008 I don't lie, plain and simple, it's too much effort to make them up, then remember them. Not to mention it's wrong. If I'm in a fight I will bring up hurtfull truth that I normally wouldn't say. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmoosego Posted December 17, 2008 Report Share Posted December 17, 2008 depends on what the fight is about..... is it worth getting all bent about? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
e-flores Posted December 17, 2008 Report Share Posted December 17, 2008 I don't lie, plain and simple, it's too much effort to make them up, then remember them. Not to mention it's wrong. If I'm in a fight I will bring up hurtfull truth that I normally wouldn't say.+1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mandova Posted December 17, 2008 Report Share Posted December 17, 2008 If the other person feels strongly enough to want to argue, then you got to face that the issue holds some value to them personally. I think anything is worth talking about......that's just my perspective on things.Talk, argue, fight, whatever you gotta do to work thru it.....right? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ninjachk08 Posted December 17, 2008 Author Report Share Posted December 17, 2008 i just texted him, and told him about the poll.lolhe said, that he don't mean everything he says when he's upset cuz he's not thinking clear.which is my point, on why the truth comes out.. but, then he says he just says it to piss me off and its not the truth. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kosmo Posted December 17, 2008 Report Share Posted December 17, 2008 "fight tooth and nail "no matter what anything goes like rugby......but make sure after that fight/play you pour your spouse a single malt scotch or a top shelf tequila and say "honey how's it ?"works for me for 13 years....... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xtremef4i Posted December 17, 2008 Report Share Posted December 17, 2008 My wifey and I dont argue much and never "fight". When we do have a disagreement, We are always both honest and say how we feel, even if we have to pry it out of the other. We never lie about anything. I'm with Dweezel, its too hard to keep up on making lies.And remember kids..... make-up sex is the best part of an argument Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redbarron77 Posted December 17, 2008 Report Share Posted December 17, 2008 Why make stuff up? The truth is a delicate weapon that must be used like a scalpel......most importantly when you need to cut to the bone....... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yotaman88210 Posted December 17, 2008 Report Share Posted December 17, 2008 I don't lie, plain and simple, it's too much effort to make them up, then remember them. Not to mention it's wrong. If I'm in a fight I will bring up hurtfull truth that I normally wouldn't say.+3.6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cbrjess0815 Posted December 17, 2008 Report Share Posted December 17, 2008 I dont see the point to lying.. I say the trutrh regardless of whether it sucks or not. But I know what you mean about the lying. My friend's boyfriend always makes shit up when they are fighting and lies about what he's doing and who he's talking to just to piss her off. its so weird. He would text his dude and when she asked who he was talking to he'd make up some girl just to be mean.. Fucked up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yotaman88210 Posted December 17, 2008 Report Share Posted December 17, 2008 I dont see the point to lying.. I say the trutrh regardless of whether it sucks or not. But I know what you mean about the lying. My friend's boyfriend always makes shit up when they are fighting and lies about what he's doing and who he's talking to just to piss her off. its so weird. He would text his dude and when she asked who he was talking to he'd make up some girl just to be mean.. Fucked up.He needs a kick to the junk... or his girlfriend should start saying she is talking to other guys! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kawi kid Posted December 17, 2008 Report Share Posted December 17, 2008 i dont lie. if im asked something by a gf im always honest. no matter what. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Disclaimer Posted December 17, 2008 Report Share Posted December 17, 2008 There's truth, and there is honesty... exampleG/F: What'd you do last night?Me: I went out with the guys, we got some pizza and bullshittedG/F: That's nice.While that's all true, we also may have (or may not have) went out to the strip club, and bar hopping and yada yada yada... you get the point.You ladies need to ask more specific questions or press for more details. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fonzie Posted December 17, 2008 Report Share Posted December 17, 2008 (edited) My friend's boyfriend always makes shit up when they are fighting and lies about what he's doing and who he's talking to just to piss her off. its so weird. He would text his dude and when she asked who he was talking to he'd make up some girl just to be mean.. I'm guessing this is his way of signaling her that he's tired of her checking up on him all the time/bein' nosy of his every move??? To discourage her from this.....He's givin' her worst case answers to rattle her cage. Ask me no questions......I'll tell you no liesWifey & I fight constantly. We each have our own version/spin of "truth" when arguing. I've always said there are no punches below the belt with us......'cause the belt's on the floorAfter 17 years & 4 kids.....She knows me better than anybody, what all my "hot buttons" are, and is VERY adept at pushing them. We're each other's best friend, and worst enemy......All rolled into one. Kinda like sleeping with the enemy Edited December 17, 2008 by Fonzie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cdubyah Posted December 17, 2008 Report Share Posted December 17, 2008 Hmm...this is an interesting debate. I'm not one to argue or fight, but accuse me off lying, and I'm gonna come un-glued. I believe in arguing the truth of the present day. Don't bring shit up that I've done or said in the the past, to hurt me today.I will tell you the truth, not so much to hurt you, but you asked.Now if you ask me "Does this look my butt look big?" you'll never get an answer out of me. A. I say "yes" and I'm a fucking jerk. B. I say "No" and I'm a fucking liar. lose lose Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fonzie Posted December 17, 2008 Report Share Posted December 17, 2008 There's truth, and there is honesty... exampleG/F: What'd you do last night?Me: I went out with the guys, we got some pizza and bullshittedG/F: That's nice.While that's all true, we also may have (or may not have) went out to the strip club, and bar hopping and yada yada yada... you get the point.You ladies need to ask more specific questions or press for more details.Traitor OK Alfalfa......You're bein' evicted from the "He Man, Woman Hater Club" & I'm gettin' you a copy of the "Vagina Monologues" for Christmas Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Disclaimer Posted December 17, 2008 Report Share Posted December 17, 2008 (edited) :lol:Call me a traitor, but consider the scope of the audience in this forum... it reaches maybe... 6-8 girls that are active on here?None of our wives or girlfriends browse this site - except maybe NinjaNicks, which is why he's no longer w/ us. Shoot, I've told that exact same thing to my girlfriend and she won't remember it a week later. She only remembers important stuff, like how I forgot her birthday 6 years ago. Edited December 17, 2008 by JRMMiii Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xtremef4i Posted December 17, 2008 Report Share Posted December 17, 2008 None of our wives or girlfriends browse this site - except maybe NinjaNicks. Funny. Sad, but true. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redbarron77 Posted December 17, 2008 Report Share Posted December 17, 2008 Now if you ask me "Does this look my butt look big?" you'll never get an answer out of me. A. I say "yes" and I'm a fucking jerk. B. I say "No" and I'm a fucking liar. lose loseThe correct answer is, it'd look better without those jeans on! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Disclaimer Posted December 17, 2008 Report Share Posted December 17, 2008 The answer is' date=' "No. Those jeans don't make your ass look fat. Your ass does." That's why the Mrs. doesn't ask me fucked up questions anymore. She doesn't like the answers I give her.[/quote']That's called training. And you have to start early. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flounder Posted December 17, 2008 Report Share Posted December 17, 2008 Each person is different Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kawi kid Posted December 17, 2008 Report Share Posted December 17, 2008 Now if you ask me "Does this look my butt look big?" you'll never get an answer out of me. A. I say "yes" and I'm a fucking jerk. B. I say "No" and I'm a fucking liar. lose losebe passive......... "nope not as big as the ones my sister was wearing the other day" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Disclaimer Posted December 17, 2008 Report Share Posted December 17, 2008 be passive......... "nope not as big as the ones my sister was wearing the other day" I was going to ask why you were checking out your sisters ass, but then I remembered you're in Coshocton County. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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