It sounds like you are doing it right as long as you are measuring between the same points every time. Your math is correct. I can't imagine they put super light springs in those, most bike come with 0.8 springs with the newer ones around 0.9-0.95 which both should be too heavy for your weight.
Sounds right, he had me flush and up 5mm I think in the rear but the 08 and 09 really aren't similar. Hope it works out or hope you find something you like for round 3.
I don't remember any but I didn't ride last weekend. I talked to Reuben from 35 about set up for my 08, he's big into the Kawi's, he could probably get you in the right direction.
Kawi's are typically harder to set up, they get a lot of chatter, but once you get them past that point you should be good. Not sure what issues you are having but hopefully you can get them sorted.