I had a good relationship with my mother, but a horriable relationship with my father as a kid. A lot of abuse and Mom didn't believe me. As I got older things changed a bit but I always resented him for the abuse. Of course that part got worst as I went through my normal teenage rebelion stage. Once college started, I didn't see them much even though I was living at home still. With a pretty much full time job and college around 4 hours a day, and my now wife, I didn't see them much. I moved out after college and got married a few months later. Since then my parents and I get a long much better. My dad has turned into a completely different person since he stopped smoking and then when my Mom had a hystorectomy. He has asked for forgiveness for the abuse, which is a big step. I still don't know if when I have kids I could trust to leave him alone with him.