ok had some time and dug a little further.
the connections are all good. I removed he relay for the brights and the low beam works fine I switch to the brights the lights turn off (no relay) switch back to low beams and the turn back on. Tried this with both relays and get the same result. Pulled the low beam relay and when I turn the brights on they come on fine but when I switch back to the low beams the stay on. tested it will both relays and same thing each time. So I know the relays are good the lights are fine without the harness I think it's with the harness itself may be wired up wrong need to find what prong is what on my relays and make sure its wired correctly. Really don't want to break the harness apart if I really don't have too. Any other possible ideas?