Really? cause I think that we can and everyone will still be happy. Why can't we have equal pay/rights and still be treated chivalrously? I split the cost of everything in my relationship. I don't expect to be handed anything and I realize that if I want something, I get it for myself. I don't feel that I am spoiled. I still want my significant other to treat me with chivalry and do nice things for me b/c I do the same for him. It's all give and take. I figure, if I am taking care of him and he of me, no one is left out. I am not talking about monetary things here but that's not what chivalry is about, right? Maybe I am mixing up terms here. Nothing is more annoying than girls that expect for everything to be handed to them by a man. I can't stand that crap and I think it gives women a bad name. I am just saying that it's nice to have the door held for you or to get his coat when you are cold or for him to protect you in some way or show he is thinking of you.... we return the favor by cooking a good meal or sewing your shirt back together when it is coming apart or writing you a little love note. Anyway, argument directed at no one in particular, I just certainly hope chivalry isn't dead.