I did that about 2 years ago and im back in the same boat again. i have tried to talk but still nothing. There is no love,affection... well to her my affection from her is her doing my laundry, and cleaning the house all day. she is a freakin compulsive clean freak. she sweeps like 5 times a day and cleans all day saturday and sunday. thanks for your input but im really swaying the other way. The kids sucks but everyone told me not to get involved with a woman with kids, but i didnt listen.