I just wanted to give a little update about all of this.
She moved in with us (as i stated earlier) and is doing very well. There were some tests of our resilience the week before her court date, and there have been some small hiccups, but her grades are doing well, and we are are working on MANY things...
We have since learned she is pigeon toed pretty severly, (could have been easily corrected as a small human, but was neglected) and is in physical therapy to help correct it.. she usually does her exercises but sometimes i have to remind her (normal, right?)
We went to the dentist and found out that she has extreme oral thrust that again, ahd she been to the dentist regularly, could have been easily corrected as a small child, but now will have to have some pretty severe corrective braces, as opposed to minor regular braces as a child.. (we had a fear some oral surgery might have been needed but one ortho said we could avoid this *phew*)
She has some manner issues (she's mostly devoid of them.. not just unruly teenagery.. but no understanding of common courtesy) I find most days i ahve to treat her like my 3yo neice who is learning how to say please and thank you, and not interupt or slap at things..
Overall though, things are going ok. Her grades are doing well(5A's and 2B's), and we had a nice Christmas and new years as first-time parents. I will say i like that she is at an age that she was able to stay up and have fun with us and our gaming friends. She played board games with us all night and was an active participant in them.
Tim's wife suggested a great lawyer for us, and she was on top of things and helped make the process pretty smooth.
She says she is happy with her decision, and I know she thinks some days Im too strict with her, and so do others, but i know how far we have to go, and what all needs repaired.
next up for her is Counseling.. will be looking for one this month...