Then why the fuck would you post that you would hit her?  Your changing your tune-and I think you should.  Unless the chic was 6-2, 220, and used to be a guy, there is NO situation where you should hit her.  Ever.     
I have had to retrain chics before-chics that were "swinging" on me, but putting some piece of trailer trash in an armbar, is not jacking one in  the face.  Trust me-Im no feminist.  if I was, I would not be newly single.