You're ahead of the learning curve in a way. If you have smaller hands like my GF, check the subcompact market, IE M&P, Glock, Beretta, Sig (maybe out of range in price), Ruger etc... I guess a good way to start is if you prefer an automatic or a revolver. Start there, and head to the range for some palming and shooting. Most ranges are pretty empty during the weekdays.