Johny Utah Posted February 3, 2014 Report Share Posted February 3, 2014 I'm just wondering here. How hard would it be to get full custody of a almost 3 year old son from his Mom? What would it take? She is getting difficult to deal with anything. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrs.cos Posted February 3, 2014 Report Share Posted February 3, 2014 Sounds like you need to talk to an attorney. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
El Karacho1647545492 Posted February 3, 2014 Report Share Posted February 3, 2014 I'm just wondering here. How hard would it be to get full custody of a almost 3 year old son from his Mom? What would it take? She is getting difficult to deal with anything. That depends, do you have easy access to a car with obscured plates and a burlap sack? Really though, talk to an attorney. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lauren Posted February 4, 2014 Report Share Posted February 4, 2014 Next to impossible for a man unless you can prove she is a homeless prostite drug addict who beats her child and even then it's hard Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johny Utah Posted February 4, 2014 Author Report Share Posted February 4, 2014 How can it be that hard? That seems crazy for it to be that hard. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Green Bastard Posted February 4, 2014 Report Share Posted February 4, 2014 From what I understand Ohio is a mommy state, makes getting full custody very hard for the father. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lauren Posted February 4, 2014 Report Share Posted February 4, 2014 Just about every state is a mommy state. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LS_Sonoma Posted February 4, 2014 Report Share Posted February 4, 2014 In all honesty, the best practice is to just be rational and kiss ass. With this approach you can just project to her that you are willing to assume the full time parent role and pray that she doesn't want the responsibility. Otherwise you have to prove she is unfit. It took two DUI's with the minor child in the vehicle before my best friend was able to get it as a man. (Tennesse) In Indiana, my neighbor lost her custody due to not providing stable housing for her children over a two year period. She liked to jump from bed to bed of the flavor of the month and drag her kids with her. Best of luck man. We get a hard path to walk being men who want to raise the children. There are websites for support. I personally had to deal with my wife using our children to alienate me during our separation. Hard road to walk. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Exodus Posted February 4, 2014 Report Share Posted February 4, 2014 My sister in law was the worst person ever, neglect, drugs, etc. And it was still extremely hard for my brother to get custody. Finally he did and is a great dad, but it was hard none the less. The system, at least in my opinion isn't setup for fathers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Green Bastard Posted February 4, 2014 Report Share Posted February 4, 2014 Just about every state is a mommy state. I did not know this, I thought some states it was easier for the father than here in Ohio. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tractor Posted February 4, 2014 Report Share Posted February 4, 2014 Was easy for my parents to take custody from their Daughter in law. She was too high to show up to the hearing so Judge wasn't amused. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
airwg2189 Posted February 4, 2014 Report Share Posted February 4, 2014 You absolutely will not get full custody in Ohio unless she's committed recent felonies that have endangered the child. However, joint custody will almost always be given if you take her to court, but the default hours are absolute shit and there's still Texas-sized loopholes and shit for her to walk around you with. The court system is a fucking joke for separate parents. Good luck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johny Utah Posted February 4, 2014 Author Report Share Posted February 4, 2014 Geeze that is not good news to hear it's so difficult to get. She does not do drugs or have committed any felonies. She is unstable emotionally up and down a lot. Her son that's in first grade has emotional problems as well. And has had a bad past in school already. I just know my son would be in a much more stable home with me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lauren Posted February 4, 2014 Report Share Posted February 4, 2014 Yeah not looking good. Best thing you can do is ride out the drama and just be supportive and help him make the proper choices in life. When he gets to 12 or 14 he can choose who he wants to live with. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Got-Boost? Posted February 4, 2014 Report Share Posted February 4, 2014 Your best bet is to get her on your side and explain how much easier HER life would be if you took over. She could get back on here feet and get her life straight, etc..etc..while you had custody.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lauren Posted February 4, 2014 Report Share Posted February 4, 2014 But then there goes that child support check^ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nurkvinny Posted February 4, 2014 Report Share Posted February 4, 2014 Sounds like you need to talk to an attorney. This. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
10phone2 Posted February 4, 2014 Report Share Posted February 4, 2014 the key is to get an attorney that is worth it. If possible, speak with retired lawyers or cops that can refer you to a retired prosecuting attorney in child custody disputes that is now working freelance for their own law firm. They will know everyone local including judges, attorneys, and know the ins and outs of local law for what the court has set precedence in the past. I had to deal with a real fucked up situation and the lawyer has made the difference in this massive shit mess. The key whether or not the mother is providing a safe and nurturing environment with supporting evidence. Im guessing it will cost 5-10k upfront for the representation that you are possibly requiring. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
verse Posted February 4, 2014 Report Share Posted February 4, 2014 Very difficult. Agree with everyone else to get an attorney. I've taken care of my son basically by myself since we separated back in 2009. Just recently (a month ago) did I finally get her and a judge to sign papers to make me the residential parent, not even full custody. I never had an attorney and did everything myself with the help from a guy on my hockey team. He is a business lawyer, but put in a lot of favors to a guy who dealt with that within his company. Almost every judge I've ever met is very hesitant to sign away custody from a mother. Im guessing it will cost 5-10k upfront for the representation that you are possibly requiring. Pretty accurate from what I've found. I just couldn't afford that. You're the father correct? Some things you said make it sound like you're not, but if you are, don't let anyone's negative comments get you down. Fight for your son, I know I would if I had to until the last dime I had. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Putty Posted February 4, 2014 Report Share Posted February 4, 2014 Yeah it won't be easy. As someone else said, a shared parenting plan is very possible. If you were married at the time of birth, the odds are more in your favor to get something close to 50/50. If you weren't, you'll be stuck with that Wednesday every other weekend bullshit. Good luck to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LJ Posted February 4, 2014 Report Share Posted February 4, 2014 I did not know this, I thought some states it was easier for the father than here in Ohio. There are a few"blind states" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
10phone2 Posted February 4, 2014 Report Share Posted February 4, 2014 If child protective services are involved, what they are legally required to do can have a big impact on what direction they do and say and keep in mind they have a big influence in the courts. For example, in the state of Hawaii, the legal actions CPS is suppose to take is for re-unification of the family and I can't make this scenario up. Lets say the step-father is indited for molesting his step child, the mother provides him a home and CPS finds that there are documented concerns of her parenting ability. CPS will honestly want to give the step-father counseling sessions and have the goal to re-introduce him in the home down the road. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Got-Boost? Posted February 4, 2014 Report Share Posted February 4, 2014 But then there goes that child support check^ Forget a check, you either want to step up and raise your child right (how you want) or leave them in a worse environment reducing potential... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coleyounger3 Posted February 5, 2014 Report Share Posted February 5, 2014 Sorry to tell you hell will freeze over first. Been trying for 10 years. my advice is be the best dad you can and be there for your son.put all momma drama away and do everything you can for your children Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrs.cos Posted February 5, 2014 Report Share Posted February 5, 2014 Forget a check, you either want to step up and raise your child right (how you want) or leave them in a worse environment reducing potential... I think you misinterpreted what he was saying- I believe he was suggesting baby mama won't relinquish custody for fear of losing her check from him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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