Got-Boost? Posted February 6, 2014 Report Share Posted February 6, 2014 I think you misinterpreted what he was saying- I believe he was suggesting baby mama won't relinquish custody for fear of losing her check from him. I think you're right, in that case I agree... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johny Utah Posted February 6, 2014 Author Report Share Posted February 6, 2014 He is my son. And his Mom and I were never married. Wonder why the courts think a Mom almost no matter what the child should live with her? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrs.cos Posted February 6, 2014 Report Share Posted February 6, 2014 Well it's not quite as simple as the courts deciding. If you had fought since birth with the courts for custody, it honestly may be a different story. Why does she have custody is really as simple as "she had him first" mentality. ( this is all IMHO) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
verse Posted February 6, 2014 Report Share Posted February 6, 2014 Well it's not quite as simple as the courts deciding. If you had fought since birth with the courts for custody, it honestly may be a different story. Why does she have custody is really as simple as "she had him first" mentality. ( this is all IMHO) IMO, it's mostly b/c most women just have that natural mom thing. Guys it's much more rare to have that natural instinict therefore most judges will always side with women. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrs.cos Posted February 6, 2014 Report Share Posted February 6, 2014 IMO, it's mostly b/c most women just have that natural mom thing. Guys it's much more rare to have that natural instinict therefore most judges will always side with women. Well yes there's this part too but I have a different view because I was raised by my father because my mother did not have that ability Mothers are the nurturers biologically speaking. But personally I don't think that negates the role of a father being just as good a parent as a mother. Men do not get a fair shake in custody trials especially ones where the father is fighting for custody Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
airwg2189 Posted February 6, 2014 Report Share Posted February 6, 2014 He is my son. And his Mom and I were never married. Wonder why the courts think a Mom almost no matter what the child should live with her? That's mommy states for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johny Utah Posted February 10, 2014 Author Report Share Posted February 10, 2014 Do they ever do tests on the mental state of Mothers? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tractor Posted February 10, 2014 Report Share Posted February 10, 2014 Do they ever do tests on the mental state of Mothers? Try to find a lawyer well versed in high conflict and personality disorders. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ShoMeSomeFun Posted February 10, 2014 Report Share Posted February 10, 2014 I have went thru this, and my son is six now and I can tell you Im not getting custody. Never married to the mother, and I was military so I was gone all the time. Your situation is similar to mine. Basically what it came down to was to why now? The judge said that the child seemed to be doing fine in her care so why was I pursing custody 3 years after birth. He couldn't seem to understand I was deployed/have been deployed most of his life. It seems that paying child support isn't just for your kid, you also have to be there provide emotional support (which often is extra money) for her as well just to keep you two from feuding, b/c in the end your going to lose so just kiss her ass and hope in time things change. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ShoMeSomeFun Posted February 10, 2014 Report Share Posted February 10, 2014 Do they ever do tests on the mental state of Mothers? Only if she is willing, or you can find just cause for her to have to take one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tractor Posted February 11, 2014 Report Share Posted February 11, 2014 You gotta think and plan long term. Do you feel she is unfit in some way? If she's a POS pot head or some other loser call her out on it by calling the child welfare people, can't think of the name now. They'll harass her to death with interviews and keep the calls coming in. Build a case against her and use the system to do it if your serious about getting custody. Otherwise just like everyone else says, its a mommy state. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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