It's not scary, she's about as novice as you get. She's only shot rifles previous to today (yesterday now).
The recoil wasn't bad at all for her. I started her on .38 rounds, then weaned her from those to the 119 grain .357s to the defense rounds. It was all cake.
How about you take her to the range and rent her one, then run through the same practice I did with my wife?
EDIT: Better yet, we can all meet one day and you can use ours if you're free.