No, it's not. It's bloody fact. Perhaps your elders have no pride, but most would be angered and humiliated by a grandkid or nephew offering them any kind of financial help whent hey don't need it. This feeling is ESPECIALLY stong among immigrants. You should see me try to pay for dinner when out with the in-laws (Taiwanese).
"Oh his brother lives in a shack..." EVERYONE LIVES IN A SHACK over there.
Do you have rich relatives? Are mad because they don't shower you with gifts? My aunt was married to a man who sat on the Dial Corp board of directors through their most prosperous years, should we have asked him to fix our heater for us? They're divorced now and each are still bloody rich.