bottom line is, each child is different. i dont disagree with spanking, but it should be a LAST resort. not a FIRST resort. not every child will listen and obey if you put them in a corner, not every kid will start listening if you spank them.. some children just need to talk things out and that straightens them up, it all depends on the child. at any rate the handcuffing scenario is retarded. obviously its abuse. if you were handcuffed to your chair, to your bed, all day every day for a week when you were 16 you would have called it abuse too. dont believe me? go get some handcuffs, and have someone do it to you. bottom line is there are MANY effective ways to raise a child. there is no right way to discipline children, as long as you give it all your effort, ask for advice, dont give up on your kids, and dont cross the line of abuse, people cant call you a "bad parent" if youre a lazy fuck that lets your kid run wild, then youre a bad parent.