You have to agree though, that this argument lends to perpetuating the situation. No one is saying that these kids have the full responsibility go pull themselves up by their bootstraps, but what about the adults in these areas? You mentioned the parents yourself, after living 30 yrs in that area and on this earth, you have a pretty good idea of what works and what doesn't.
The world isn't as small as it used to be, people see more culture/society than ever before (sometimes to a fault). It's not the 70's when the only dose of a different world was the Brady Bunch and Jeffersons on Thursday nights.
You make a legitimate and well spoken argument, but what's your answer? If your waiting for the government to fix your life, or provide the golden pathway to prosperity, your going to die poor (in more ways than fiscally).
How do we instill in people (white and black) the drive and desire for a better spot on this marble?