its not about hiding anything. my wife goes shopping and buys without telling me...when i shop its for cars and bikes...honestly she doesnt care cuz i have what I call play money. I take 10% of what I make during the winter and do with it as i wish. so i spoil myself once a year...i spoil my wife allllll year..nothing unhealthy about that...and I did buy the car for her originally....but she didnt like it enough...no biggy I bought her another.