I love to text and do so quite often, especially to the girl I've just recently started dating. It does not however, take the place of actual conversation. Like fusion stated earlier, it is another form of communication. Her and I already have the ability to communicate through single words or symbols and I love it! She cannot be on her phone during the day at work so many times a day she will just send me a and I completely melt, simply because it shows she was thinking of me! I try to return the favor as much as possible as well. I did not set up our first date via text, and love nothing more than to actually communicate one on one, but sometimes that's not always possible. As far as chivalry being dead? I'd like to think it's not in my case. I open doors, give her my coat if she's cold, let her order first when out, carry anything I can for her, and am just in general concerned for her feelings, thoughts, and emotions. I'm not playing games and I hope it doesn't come back to bite me. If it does, then so be it because I don't know how to be any other way. So Sara, not all guys are like what you described. Apparently you just haven't found the right one yet. Don't give up, he's out there!