I understand. I use to constantly help one of my cousins out. I would always slide her 1 or 2 hundo here and there because I felt bad that her kids don't have very much and I'm doing well for myself.
Well, once I figured out that she was blowing her money on clothes (for herself), booze, cigs, etc, I told her I wasn't giving her any more money. She called today asking for $350. I said no, but told her I would send some money for xmas. I'll probably send $50. I hate to, but again, I feel bad for her kids. It's not their fault.