I guarantee she wouldn't have made those same comments, in that same way & tone to any of the parents of her kids, in the real world....Let's say during parent teacher conferences And I never called her a bitch, so you know where you can put your "dick" comment He only gets to see her maaaybeee 10% of the year it sounds like, so he is walking an extremely fine line of trying to parent her, without making her want to avoid being around him. He's not privvy to the normal day to day time/trivial little things most of us get to wait for things to cool down, or look for that perfect time to mend/soften things. If he pisses her off, she can avoid phone calls & start playing other games to miss visitations, as it sounds like Mommy's not gonna play advocate for him Agreed.... Which is why he's in such a precarious position like I said above