400 HO Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 I'm going to be a free man after the 24th of this month. I am scared to death because we have 1 child and Im so affraid that I am going to get the shaft as far as time with my son... The mom (aka bitch) will not agree to my proposed parenting plan (EOWE with me also having him every Monday and Tuesday nights) She wants him EVERY WEEK NIGHT.. but she says that I can see him "a couple of hours after school on Mondays and Weds.!!... Bull Shit!! I'm filing for resentital parenting for school placement purposes. Anyway.. Im writing this because I am preparing my case (I can not afford an attorney) and wondering what I should expect. Has anyone on here been thru this?? Anyone go thru it in Licking County?? I have Judge Steiner. Any help would be great... Thanks!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SinisterSS Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 I went through a divorce, bitch took everything from me, I just thank God we didn't have a child, but I can say if you don't have a lawyer your screwed man.....I feel some of your pain not all because we didn't have a kid, Good luck man, hope you come out on top Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
81mercury Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 good luck with it man, the judges is most likely going to go with her on the custody of the kid..its hard to get anything with out a lawyer....my dads been through it twice and got srewed both times Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smokin5s Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 is she a bad parent? if not, unfortunately, 9 times out of 10, the judge will side with the mother. the couple that my fiance used to nanny for, they had shared custody (SPLIT COMPLETELY DOWN THE MIDDLE.....) the father would have them one week, then the mother would have them the next... ALL WEEK ya, he's still paying out the ass in child support even though IMO there should be absoltely no child support since all custody is split down the middle. good luck man... the courts in my opinion are really screwed up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HAOLE Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 After my mother died my father remarried. The lady he marrired opened up credit card accounts in his name and his business name. She ran up 45k in credit cards right before the divorce without my dad knowing. She was buying stuff for her kids. Computers, clothes, jewelry etc. My dad still had to pay her 15k support. That was licking county too. My advice is to bring lots of KY and grab your ankles. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smokin5s Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 it really amazes me how one sided the system appears to be Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SpaceGhost Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 Lube it up. Because they are going to PIITB. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TTQ B4U Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 I disagree....the system isn't necessarily one sided. Most will side with the mom in favor of money because typically the father makes more and the issue of custody isn't discussed around the best welfare of the child but rather how much the father is going to have to pay. My wife is a divorce lawyer and gets clients from both sides. I see it all the time. There is no best solution. Divorce is hard on the kids regardless. What I've seen is the best solution is usually a 3 day/4 day custody agreement. All depends on how close the families are though. Some say keeping the kids on a routine is best. M-F with one evening is typical. EOWE is very typical. It's though because EOWE means you usually have a parent with little knowledge or involvement in the child's life during the week and it ends up as a a kid in their room with headphones on waiting for the routine of M-F to kick back in. Best thing to do is get a lawyer and work it out with the child's best interest in mind. If you come off as it's not about the kid and all about you not having money, then the judge will pick up on that and you'll be toast. it really amazes me how one sided the system appears to be Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Nitrousbird Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 Get a good lawyer, NOW. You'll be spending that money one way or another, and probably more in the long run without a lawyer. You can't afford to NOT have a good lawyer. That said, you are probably fairly screwed this late in the game. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrs.cos Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 Get a good lawyer, NOW. You'll be spending that money one way or another, and probably more in the long run without a lawyer. You can't afford to NOT have a good lawyer. That said, you are probably fairly screwed this late in the game. QFMFTx ELeventy Billion Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flybye Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 good luck man...im pretty much in the same situation as you. luckily we arent married, but might as well be though Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
baron_ Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 they really are correct about the lawyer thing, unfortunately Once this order has been established, you can't simply open it back up for review in a few years when you realize you were screwed or could have done better You need new circumstances and more $$$/time/energy at that time to review what's going to happen now Hopefully the facts aren't that complicated. If you're calling her a bitch already - it's probably ugly and nasty... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest LSWON333 Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 Get a good lawyer, NOW. You'll be spending that money one way or another, and probably more in the long run without a lawyer. You can't afford to NOT have a good lawyer. That said, you are probably fairly screwed this late in the game. Ah hell just do what I do and DONT get married!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flybye Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 Ah hell just do what I do and DONT get married!!! EXACTLY what i say....but but having a kid with her still leaves a pretty big connection. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave1647545494 Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 if you don't have a lwyer your fucked Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dragknee66 Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 No lawyer = your pretty fucked dude Your better off spending everything you have on the legal help in HOPE she wont take you for the rest of your life. And I thank you for supporting my choice never to get married Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Draco-REX Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 Reason #1 I won't get married.. It's MY stuff, hands OFF! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flybye Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 Reason #1 I won't get married.. It's MY stuff, hands OFF! yeah but i dont think that is all that matters. i would be more worried about the childs situation Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheHaze Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 Luckily not all women are bitches. Though they all are to some degree. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flybye Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 Luckily not all women are bitches. Though they all are to some degree. pretty much.....one thing i hate is that everything they do makes sense to them and you can't change their mind on that. Do what YOUR heart/brain tells you to do and not what you "think" she wants you to do. Even if you do what she wants, it wont satisfy her cause she will want MORE. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest LSWON333 Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 I have a daughter, I just never got married . She hasnt taken me to childsupport because she knows shed get fucked if she did cause im self employed. I only made 25k last year ha ha ha. If she isnt budging on the situation with your boy, you will have a hard time in court especially if you dont have an attorney, but i suppose it really depends on the judge. She might try to bring up any dirt you might have on you in court, so she gets what she wants (your kid) so keep that in mind. That goes both ways though. Tell the judge she is a swinger and she likes to smoke crack, you should get what you want if that flies!lllol jk good luck though Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest LSWON333 Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 I have a daughter, I just never got married . She hasnt taken me to childsupport because she knows shed get fucked if she did cause im self employed. I only made 25k last year ha ha ha. If she isnt budging on the situation with your boy, you will have a hard time in court especially if you dont have an attorney, but i suppose it really depends on the judge. She might try to bring up any dirt you might have on you in court, so she gets what she wants (your kid) so keep that in mind. That goes both ways though. Tell the judge she is a swinger and she likes to smoke crack, you should get what you want if that flies!lllol jk good luck though We may as well have been married... I was with her for 7 LONG years. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flybye Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 I have a daughter, I just never got married . She hasnt taken me to childsupport because she knows shed get fucked if she did cause im self employed. I only made 25k last year ha ha ha. If she isnt budging on the situation with your boy, you will have a hard time in court especially if you dont have an attorney, but i suppose it really depends on the judge. She might try to bring up any dirt you might have on you in court, so she gets what she wants (your kid) so keep that in mind. That goes both ways though. Tell the judge she is a swinger and she likes to smoke crack, you should get what you want if that flies!lllol jk good luck though yeah but seeing your daughter around another man/father type figure has to bug the shit out of you? and yes being self employed really does have its perks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TonyG Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 Good luck man! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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