Main3s Posted July 19, 2010 Report Share Posted July 19, 2010 Note: This thread is about me breaking up with my G/F. So if you want to read and reply respectfully feel free. If not, please don't insult me with sarcastic comments. I just broke up with my girl friend of 7 1/2 years over the weekend. I'm not bitter with her it's just that I'm 25 and shes 32. We've kind of grown apart (or at least I have). I met her when I was in High School and we've lived together for 6 years. Honestly she has been a huge part of my adult life and I wouldn't be the person I am today if it weren't for her. But I realize that as I continue to grow as a person that we're just too different. I can't drag it out any longer and lead her to believe that there is going to be a bright and happy future for the 2 of us, because honestly I don't feel there is one. So as much as it pains me to do it, I had to call it quits. The worst part is the fact that I still care about her, just not as a G/F, fiance or wife. I could either hurt her now and be honest or destroy her later when she's 37 and we have more invested and I'm just bitter. We're going to sit down tonight and go over the details like who gets what, how we should divide up the bills etc. Ive never gone through this kind of thing before so I'm kind of scared. For the first time as an adult I'll be all on my own. And while there are things that I'm really nervous about, I'm actually looking forward to it. I know there are people who have been in and out of relationships, and it's not that big of a deal to them. But there are also people like myself that have always been a 1 girl kind of guy. So for me personally it was a big decision, Ive been really happy at points then really low at points, but the decision is for the best... I guess the whole point of this thread is kind of a "Brotherly Support" kind of deal. I know there are guys on here who have been through the same and I know it's gonna get worse before it gets better so knowing that people I know (well sort of know) have done it and come out better would probably help me through the bad. That and just getting it out there makes it a little more real and forces me to stand by my decision... That's pretty much it... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
04silvrz Posted July 19, 2010 Report Share Posted July 19, 2010 force yourself to bone a different chick, you will feel better. promise! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hwilli1647545487 Posted July 19, 2010 Report Share Posted July 19, 2010 Strangely enough I was thinking about you today. I was going to get a hold of you to work out. You have friends. Hit me up if you need anything. H Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SRTurbo04 Posted July 19, 2010 Report Share Posted July 19, 2010 Dam brotaco that sucks. But ur right ur doing the right thing doing it now then hoping it gets better later. Hit me up if u wanna grab a beer Ok ill be the asshole pics ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wnaplay1647545503 Posted July 19, 2010 Report Share Posted July 19, 2010 Sometimes its for the best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RC K9 Posted July 19, 2010 Report Share Posted July 19, 2010 I don't mean this disrespectfully, and I don't know you, but this seems like a big change from the Columbus Scenery thread. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gergwheel1647545492 Posted July 19, 2010 Report Share Posted July 19, 2010 Well it sounds like you are really doing the best thing possible. Let me know if you wanna go to the Lizard sometime and get some beers, or just generally hang out. you got my number so let me know if you need anything at all man Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
99BlownYellowGT Posted July 19, 2010 Report Share Posted July 19, 2010 It may be a struggle dividing bills up. Who Ever name it is in is stuck with it. I have been there done that. Good luck and get everything you decide on in writing Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Littleguy Posted July 19, 2010 Report Share Posted July 19, 2010 Some advice, if she knows any passwords/pin numbers/any other important information of your go ahead and change them now. A girl who has just been dumped can do some crazy things. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhett Posted July 19, 2010 Report Share Posted July 19, 2010 Me and my girl of 5 years broke up a year ago... really sucked at first. But I made new friendships and some great friends (Sad to say all of this site lol) But how do i feel a year later... I miss her, the comfort from being in a relationship, the person to go home to and look forward to seeing... but now I am the same person with out that.. realized that having a girl is no the main thing in my life or the main focus point for me anymore. Good luck man! You sound like your doing this for the right reasons and good on you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
John Bruh Posted July 19, 2010 Report Share Posted July 19, 2010 Some advice, if she knows any passwords/pin numbers/any other important information of your go ahead and change them now. A girl who has just been dumped can do some crazy things. yes. The girl i was with since high school 6yrs did some fucked up shit like this. Cancel every card you have and get a new one no matter if there are any charges right away or not. But good luck. Shits tough. But its gets better then you wonder (if you guys fought like we did) why did you leave earlier! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhett Posted July 19, 2010 Report Share Posted July 19, 2010 Some advice, if she knows any passwords/pin numbers/any other important information of your go ahead and change them now. A girl who has just been dumped can do some crazy things. This is good advice. You may think she wouldnt... but I still would just to be safe man. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
John Bruh Posted July 19, 2010 Report Share Posted July 19, 2010 just be glad there isnt a kid involved (at least you didnt mention it). I still have to see this cunt because shes the mother of my son. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iwashmycar Posted July 19, 2010 Report Share Posted July 19, 2010 Just make sure its all out on the table. I can tell you there is nothing worse than having no closure.... For both you and her. (like if shes got questions try and answer) I probably wouldn't sincerely hate my ex if she would have simply taken the time to talk a bit.... but what happens will happen, and you just have to move on. I regret spending most of my college life on said relationship (though I dont regret all i've learned from it), and afterwards I can tell you the best medicine is to just enjoy some single life, surround yourself with friends and have some fun. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Main3s Posted July 19, 2010 Author Report Share Posted July 19, 2010 I don't mean this disrespectfully, and I don't know you, but this seems like a big change from the Columbus Scenery thread. Yeah, I wanted to do something nice/ romantic to see if I still felt anything in that way. you know as years past you stop doing the silly romantic stuff that make you really love a person. Sad to say but after our little night out I still didn't feel anything... Hell, I fell asleep on the couch that night because she had her "routine" and I just wasn't in the mood. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhett Posted July 19, 2010 Report Share Posted July 19, 2010 I can tell you the best medicine is to just enjoy some single life, surround yourself with friends and have some fun. + this Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Primera Posted July 19, 2010 Report Share Posted July 19, 2010 I think the best part for me of coming out of a long term relationship was going back to having an "open schedule". I don't have to plan things around anyone but myself and that was extremely relieving. I was able to get back to all the hobbies I gave up (ex: music) without having to entertain the girlfriend while she was over/living at my apartment. After some time being single, I was able to truly prioritize everything in my life and I'm much happier where I'm at right now. There are a lot of things I want to get going in my life before I think about starting another relationship. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jizzle Juice Posted July 19, 2010 Report Share Posted July 19, 2010 You will get through it. Its gonna be tough but hang out with your friends do crazy shit like run with the PRK we'll def get your mind off of it. The thing i found hard is when your not doing anything at all. you drown yourself in the memories of what was. So seriously man get out and hang with your friends and family there the best in the situation. Oh and maybe getting some strange may work but make sure its just strange and nothing more, you dont wanna become the asshole girls hate lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SRTurbo04 Posted July 19, 2010 Report Share Posted July 19, 2010 You will get through it. Its gonna be tough but hang out with your friends do crazy shit like run with the PRK we'll def get your mind off of it. The thing i found hard is when your not doing anything at all. you drown yourself in the memories of what was. So seriously man get out and hang with your friends and family there the best in the situation. Oh and maybe getting some strange may work but make sure its just strange and nothing more, you dont wanna become the asshole girls hate lol Do the prk ralley to put in bay an party Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AWW$HEEET Posted July 19, 2010 Report Share Posted July 19, 2010 just be glad there isnt a kid involved (at least you didnt mention it). I still have to see this cunt because shes the mother of my son. did she ever find her ring or whatever? Do the prk ralley to put in bay an party +1. paul said you can share a bed w him. paul book our hotel room at the laquinta Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Main3s Posted July 19, 2010 Author Report Share Posted July 19, 2010 Thanks Bro's for all the support! :thumbup: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
John Bruh Posted July 19, 2010 Report Share Posted July 19, 2010 did she ever find her ring or whatever? fuck no. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wagner Posted July 19, 2010 Report Share Posted July 19, 2010 We can do a repeat of Zac's birthday but I will DD and there will be no destroyed sweepers If you do want to go out let me know I am done with class the first weekend of August and might be putting something together for stress relief Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sciongirl Posted July 19, 2010 Report Share Posted July 19, 2010 im sorry to hear about that.. but like you said, it may be for the best. i have been there... it sucks to hurt someone else to save them and yourself later on. hope everything works out alright. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest tbutera2112 Posted July 19, 2010 Report Share Posted July 19, 2010 show us the boobies? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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