I really don't know the guy that well. I have met him and been around him, maybe 2 times. So, calling him out is pointless. I don't know his situation at all. But, when I heard the" "check with the wife" come up, it just really made me think about how often I hear that.
Mike, You are dead on as I see things. So, with us having a shared point of view, I still wonder how one finds them self in these situations. Does the other partner have no hobbies or interests to follow on there own? Lack of money, understandable. I know kids can come in to play on this. But I can only think that there is some sort of lack of communication/effort for a couple to have over bearing issues like this. Checking with them and letting them know this or that is going on, is a must. But, you can tell some people are always shut down for what seems like no reason at all. That is what I'm frustrated with.
I hear what some of you are saying with the "sex is power". With out medical reason's, no fucking way is holding out on sex acceptable. Dangle a fucking carrot and make the other one do trick's, fuck that.
The respect has to be on both sides. I'll if it is just emotional selfishness form a socially inept person trying to hold the reins of there partner.
Please continue with the input.
And Chris, I always need sex. But that's just me, 24/7.