I have been married twice now. My first husband I married at 16, we where married 7 years. It fell apart because we had major issues and he would not go through counseling with me. All of the common interests we had when we first met changed over the years, we grew apart. I developed new hobbies and interests that he did not share and even hated because it took up time he thought I should have been spending doing other things. The few times we did try to do things together we usually argued over something stupid and it ruined the day. We got married for the wrong reasons, and stayed together as long as we did for the wrong reasons (child). If we would have went through counseling, I have no doubts we would have been able to work out some of our issues and live a some what happy life together. It just takes both people in the relationship to want to work at it, and I believe it takes loving the person you are with to make you want to work at it.