I’ve kept out of this thread, but here is where I’ll chime in. The above bolded is bullshit. Total BS.
At my sons old school, he was simply labeled a trouble maker. It started when he was in K and continued into age 6-7. We were told he is basically unteachable. We have battled with him and the school for years over this. He never wanted to complete assignments, disrupted class, textbook type behavior. Hated going, wanted to stay home and the works. Not one teacher said anything aside from snide comments about us as parents not working with our kid at home, special schools and etc. He was treated like an outcast and everyone could see why he wouldn’t want to go to school. Not one god damn teacher offered any guidance, help or suggested anything to us despite our pleas.
We moved. Boom, new school and on day fucking one a counselor (not a fucking teacher) pulled him aside and tested him with our permission. He has a speech issue, reading disorder and teachers never once saw it. Magically, he is doing excellent after working with this counselor. He just missed the gifted program, tests at a high school level and loves school. New school counselor picked up on it and now at age 8 he is a completely different kid. Likes school, wants to go and enjoys it.
My point in all of this is, no, the teachers can’t pick up on this. Judging by the teachers at our old school, they can barely pick up a Starbucks. Those teachers were barely out of college, no experience and basement pay. I’m not 100% faulting teachers. They are inundated with kids, parents and rules but to not listen to parents when we plead that here is a bigger issue and not help get us pointed to somewhere that we can help them is a failure of the system. You’ll read similar stories like this everywhere though. Bad kids do shit, parents try and plead for help yet nothing ever gets done. THAT is the fucking problem here. Kids feel cast aside because they basically are sometimes. Once labeled as a troublemaker, why bother to get out of that label if everyone believes it, right?