why fight with family?
it's pitiful how family will end up hating each other fighting over money/material things when someone dies.
when my ex-wife's Grandma died, she was pretty poor, her most valuable possessions were a flat screen TV, a car not worth much, and an electric fire place. I couldn't believe the fighting and maneuvering the family did against eachother fighting over the electric fireplace. Pretty much separated family ties over a fire place that was worth $300
Sorry about your loss.
I would not jeopardize your family over it.