I was going to take time and make long response, but decided to keep it simple.
This board has been around many years before you were a member and has seen much worse than what goes on these days. While yes, some may get a bit out of hand, again, its nothing like it used to be, and little occurances like that can be dealt with as they come. Talking about treating this place like prison is going to do nothing more than run more people off. Most of us have been here long enough and are old enough to know whats acceptable and whats not and dont need some one cracking down on us.
Also since when is someone actually being told they are over moderating, speculation?
As for the kitchen, its just fine. Again, if you cant handle it, stay out