Anyone without kids who dates someone with kids has to realize the kids will always be first...and if they're a decent parent, will require a lot of their time. If this doesn't work for you...then you'll have to find someone without kids. Point blank. Any woman or man willing to put a date ahead of their kids is someone you really don't want to be with anyways. You have to ask yourself if you're prepared to share...if you can't, your options are finding someone without kids, the strip club, or hookers and blow.