Guest LSWON333 Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 yeah but seeing your daughter around another man/father type figure has to bug the shit out of you? and yes being self employed really does have its perks. I havent got there yet. When I do, I don't plan on hanging out with them...My daughter knows who her daddy is so Im not worried about that. I just know that her and I are through, so why beat myself up over it, we dont get along!! Im getting much better pussy now too so fuck her lol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Casper Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 I'm going to be a free man after the 24th of this month. I am scared to death because we have 1 child and Im so affraid that I am going to get the shaft as far as time with my son... The mom (aka bitch) will not agree to my proposed parenting plan (EOWE with me also having him every Monday and Tuesday nights) She wants him EVERY WEEK NIGHT.. but she says that I can see him "a couple of hours after school on Mondays and Weds.!!... Bull Shit!! I'm filing for resentital parenting for school placement purposes. Anyway.. Im writing this because I am preparing my case (I can not afford an attorney) and wondering what I should expect. Has anyone on here been thru this?? Anyone go thru it in Licking County?? I have Judge Steiner. Any help would be great... Thanks!! Do you have a backyard? A shovel? Problem solved. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HotCarl Posted January 14, 2008 Report Share Posted January 14, 2008 We may as well have been married... I was with her for 7 LONG years. If you live in the same domicile as someone for 7+ years the state can consider it common law marriage which would mean you face the same laws, rules and regulations as a regular divorce. For your sake I hope thats not the case, Ive heard of common law marriages and divorces going just as bad as failed marriages. Sad really. I agree with everyone else. Find a lawyer, a good one. If you dont have the money up front (who does?) almost all of them will enter into some sort of payment situation to take the case. I'd rather be paying for your defense in court than just paying it out to your ex. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Buck531 Posted January 14, 2008 Report Share Posted January 14, 2008 How old is your daughter? You'll be paying child support until she's 18. You're fucked. (unless you get a lawyer, then you're still fucked, but not as bad). Almost like umm no lawyer - no ky lawyer - some ky. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
81mercury Posted January 14, 2008 Report Share Posted January 14, 2008 If you live in the same domicile as someone for 7+ years the state can consider it common law marriage which would mean you face the same laws, rules and regulations as a regular divorce. For your sake I hope thats not the case, Ive heard of common law marriages and divorces going just as bad as failed marriages. Sad really. I agree with everyone else. Find a lawyer, a good one. If you dont have the money up front (who does?) almost all of them will enter into some sort of payment situation to take the case. I'd rather be paying for your defense in court than just paying it out to your ex. as far as i know the state of ohio doesnt honor the common law marriage bullshit...so you wouldnt have nothing of the same if anything a civil case were she pleads that she owns half of everything because it was purchased while you were together Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Casper Posted January 14, 2008 Report Share Posted January 14, 2008 If you live in the same domicile as someone for 7+ years the state can consider it common law marriage which would mean you face the same laws, rules and regulations as a regular divorce. For your sake I hope thats not the case, Ive heard of common law marriages and divorces going just as bad as failed marriages. Sad really. I agree with everyone else. Find a lawyer, a good one. If you dont have the money up front (who does?) almost all of them will enter into some sort of payment situation to take the case. I'd rather be paying for your defense in court than just paying it out to your ex. Common law hasn't been around for a long time........ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave1647545494 Posted January 14, 2008 Report Share Posted January 14, 2008 I work with a guy who got divorced he ponyed up for a good lawyer (like 75% of his pay for awhile) but now his wife pays him support paymnets its worth the money so file for an extension and then hire a lawyer Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clifford Automotive Posted January 14, 2008 Report Share Posted January 14, 2008 Licking county is a joke, i think youll be better off then whats being said. Just be prepared. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Casper Posted January 14, 2008 Report Share Posted January 14, 2008 Do you have a backyard? A shovel? Problem solved. my advise > lawyer Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HotCarl Posted January 14, 2008 Report Share Posted January 14, 2008 Common law hasn't been around for a long time........ I dont know anyone personally who has gone through it but have heard stories. Of course third person stories and word of mouth aren't always reliable either. I always thought it was bullshit, the way it was explained to me is that the whole idea is a 'way of life' clause in which for the woman to keep that standard of living (aka, her 'way of life') she needs to be compensated if you split. Lets not forget the whole IDEA of alimony and child support is a sham, an idea that was conceived in the 50's and 60's when women couldnt come close to making the income a man could make. The whole idea makes me sick, the man in the situation gets Effed over simply because he's the man. Goodluck. Oh, and dont be crazy GET A LAWYER! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smokin5s Posted January 14, 2008 Report Share Posted January 14, 2008 IShe hasnt taken me to childsupport because she knows shed get fucked if she did cause im self employed. I only made 25k last year ha ha ha. Good to know that you wages are all under the table Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cptn janks Posted January 14, 2008 Report Share Posted January 14, 2008 this is why you dont get married in the first place. there is just no security for men in marriage. if you cheat on her, she gets half. if she cheats on you, she still gets half. why would anyone ever put themselves into this position in the first place? gotta think with your big head and not your little one IMO. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smokin5s Posted January 14, 2008 Report Share Posted January 14, 2008 this is why you dont get married in the first place. there is just no security for men in marriage. if you cheat on her, she gets half. if she cheats on you, she still gets half. why would anyone ever put themselves into this position in the first place? gotta think with your big head and not your little one IMO. if you're going into marriage thinking that you or her is going to cheat then maybe you shouldn't get married anyways. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HotCarl Posted January 14, 2008 Report Share Posted January 14, 2008 if you're going into marriage thinking that you or her is going to cheat then maybe you shouldn't get married anyways. He's not saying that you should just ASSUME your partner is going to cheat. He's saying your fate both financially and emotionally is basically in her hands no matter what decision either of you make. And he's right. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Drewhop Posted January 14, 2008 Report Share Posted January 14, 2008 My brother in law split up with a girl here in licking county and he got full custody of his boy. But he also had a nice lawyer. Be suprised it seems that men might get a lil help in Licking Co. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
400 HO Posted January 15, 2008 Author Report Share Posted January 15, 2008 I appreciate all the advice guys.. really!! I'm not stupid... I'm not walking in unprepared.. BELIEVE ME!!! I have spent MANY!! MANY!! MANY!! hours drafting leagal documents on behalf of my case... I have spent over 100 hrs easily!!! I had an attorney for 7 months and had to let her go cause I ran out of money. She is still helping me and coaching me for free, but she won't rep me in court because of her current case log and the fact that I have no money. I had a 1 1/2 hr meeting with her today... She was very suprised of how organizied and prepared I am... She seems to believe that I will do fine.... I will keep you all in the loop as to what happens... Time to get back to my case.... Wish me luck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lcz06 Posted January 15, 2008 Report Share Posted January 15, 2008 Good luck with everything Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
baron_ Posted January 15, 2008 Report Share Posted January 15, 2008 Common law hasn't been around for a long time........ As I understand it, common law is the foundation for all of our modern principles. Most statutes and ordinances say that common law applies, unless otherwise stated. So, the wording of the language or statute governs...but if the issue isn't spoken to, common law can be extremely important. All you need is precedent... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Razorback Posted January 15, 2008 Report Share Posted January 15, 2008 Best of luck to you. Let us know how it turns out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Casper Posted January 15, 2008 Report Share Posted January 15, 2008 As I understand it, common law is the foundation for all of our modern principles. Most statutes and ordinances say that common law applies, unless otherwise stated. So, the wording of the language or statute governs...but if the issue isn't spoken to, common law can be extremely important. All you need is precedent... I have no idea what you just said. Common law in Ohio was referred to as two unmarried people, one male and one female, living together for seven years became legally married automatically. Are you talking about common property law? In that case, that's where the wife has a right to any of your money/property. Because once you're married, that shit belongs to both of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest hotrodmama024 Posted January 15, 2008 Report Share Posted January 15, 2008 Good Luck buddy! I know its no joy ride in the park. I have been divorced for 4 years now. It gets easier with every year that goes by, and your daughter will get wise to it as well. Hope everything works out for the best! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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