Johny Utah Posted March 3, 2010 Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 My girfriend has a 3 year old son and he sees me as his best freind. When im around he is mean to her sometimes and does not like to listen very well to her. She is getting very frustrated and angry with this. What can we do? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest tbutera2112 Posted March 3, 2010 Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 (edited) **edit for harshness lol Edited March 3, 2010 by tbutera2112 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clifford Automotive Posted March 3, 2010 Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 Give us more details on your relationship? He's 3 also. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest tbutera2112 Posted March 3, 2010 Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 she needs to spank him and tell the kid he cant talk to her like that....worked when i was a kid you shouldnt be doing anything unless the kid is yours by blood or adoption, IMO Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CRed05 Posted March 3, 2010 Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 Yeah, spankings do wonders when words don't work. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rotarded1647545491 Posted March 3, 2010 Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 My girfriend has a 3 year old son and he sees me as his best freind. When im around he is mean to her sometimes and does not like to listen very well to her. She is getting very frustrated and angry with this. What can we do? If you are condoning his behavior by accepting, encouraging, laughing, or otherwise making him comfortable in his relationship with you while acting this way, you must stop doing this. He will understand more quickly your acting in displeasure with him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johny Utah Posted March 3, 2010 Author Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 Give us more details on your relationship? He's 3 also. Like what? He is good for her and listens to her when im not around. When im around he is all about me for the most part. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KillJoy Posted March 3, 2010 Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 You need to tell him to listen to his Mother and do as she says. If he continues these actions "de-friend" him. He will get the point. KillJoy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johny Utah Posted March 3, 2010 Author Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 she needs to spank him and tell the kid he cant talk to her like that....worked when i was a kid you shouldnt be doing anything unless the kid is yours by blood or adoption, IMO She has been spanking him. He still keeps on doing it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KillJoy Posted March 3, 2010 Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 She has been spanking him. He still keeps on doing it. If you need to resort to spanking a 3 year old.. there are OTHER issues. :thumbdown KillJoy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johny Utah Posted March 3, 2010 Author Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 If you are condoning his behavior by encouraging, laughing, or otherwise making him comfortable in his relationship with you while acting this way, you must stop doing this. He will understand more quickly your acting in displeasure with him. Im not condoning it at all. I have told him when he is mean to him Mom it makes me sad and I dont like it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest tbutera2112 Posted March 3, 2010 Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 If you need to resort to spanking a 3 year old.. there are OTHER issues. :thumbdown KillJoy i agree...when kids act up people should buy them lollipops and sit them in the corner for time out with their gameboys Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AWW$HEEET Posted March 3, 2010 Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 Sucks but you need to take on more of the father figure, than the friend figure. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KillJoy Posted March 3, 2010 Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 i agree...when kids act up people should buy them lollipops and sit them in the corner for time out with their gameboys You are a fucking idiot. Once you actually HAVE a kid, much less being one, you will know this. You are basically doing the equivilant of telling a chick how to use a tampon. :gtfo: KillJoy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rotarded1647545491 Posted March 3, 2010 Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 Im not condoning it at all. I have told him when he is mean to him Mom it makes me sad and I dont like it. "Talking" to a 3 year old is really rather futile. He most likely is craving your attention. If you simply remove your attention from him the moment he starts to act this way, he will feel the loss. Actions = Consequences. He's mean to mommy, you leave the room/house. He'll get a much clearer message than when you talk to him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skinner Posted March 3, 2010 Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 If you need to resort to spanking a 3 year old.. there are OTHER issues. :thumbdown KillJoy I disagree raising boys is completely different then girls. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KillJoy Posted March 3, 2010 Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 I disagree raising boys is completely different then girls. If you need to resort to spanking a 3 year old.. there are OTHER issues. :thumbdown KillJoy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johny Utah Posted March 3, 2010 Author Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 "Talking" to a 3 year old is really rather futile. He most likely is craving your attention. If you simply remove your attention from him the moment he starts to act this way, he will feel the loss. Actions = Consequences. He's mean to mommy, you leave the room/house. He'll get a much clearer message than when you talk to him. I will leave the room or house next time he is mean to his Mom. Hopefully this will work. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KillJoy Posted March 3, 2010 Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 I will leave the room or house next time he is mean to his Mom. Hopefully this will work. Why not tell him you do not approve of this? KillJoy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest tbutera2112 Posted March 3, 2010 Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 Im not condoning it at all. I have told him when he is mean to his Mom it makes me sad and I dont like it. Why not tell him you do not approve of this? KillJoy I'm the idiot? Gotcha. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KillJoy Posted March 3, 2010 Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 I'm the idiot? Gotcha. Yup. :thumbup: KillJoy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skinner Posted March 3, 2010 Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 If you need to resort to spanking a 3 year old.. there are OTHER issues. :thumbdown KillJoy there is spanking and then there is beating our child. there is a diff. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smokin5s Posted March 3, 2010 Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 GET IT UNDER CONTROL NOW!!!!! We didn't with my step-daughter and now she is an absolute NIGHTMARE.... seriously, fix that behavior now before it's too late! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KillJoy Posted March 3, 2010 Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 there is spanking and then there is beating our child. there is a diff. Does spanking teach boys to not break things? Does spanking teach boys to not go where they are not allowed? Does spanking teach boys to not do things they are not allowed / supposed to do? KillJoy PS - How's the new TV? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CRed05 Posted March 3, 2010 Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 there is spanking and then there is beating our child. there is a diff. This. I was spanked, and my brother after me was spanked. The brother that followed us was never spanked, now he's 17 and I'm ashamed at the way he treats my parents and the things he says to them. If I even said a word that resembled a cuss word I would have gotten a smacked, but he will swear at them with no consequences. He does poorly in school and is into all kinds of drugs. He has also been diagnosed with "ADHD", another word for "lacks discipline". I see this all the time. The kids that get "time outs" in a room filled with TV's, video games and toys, are the same ones that are just absolute hooligans. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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