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While setting up videoconferencing gear for one company I told a remote team member that I put a camera in the men's room. What I actually did was google image search for toilet, printed the pic and hung it in front of the camera. She logged in to thethe feed and then started calling me a sicko. Then I told her that someone had gone in there, so go look now! A gave it a minute then turned the camera to face me giving he the finger. The phone rang with he yelling "you're an asshole, you lied!"Does. I said "you're a perve, you LOOKED!"

Rule 34 is gonna pimpslap you upside the head.

Trust is not faith. Or maybe it is... either way, I have to know I can trust him. My parenting style. Faith is not enough when it comes to things that can kill him. I had the same stepdad experience you did. The day he moved out (after 10 years) he came in and told me be was leaving for good. I told him he was letting all the warm air out so please close the door. My own father was strict, so much so that he was the enforcer and mom was the comforter. I never rebelled again him. He was strict but fair and always stuck to his word. I am the same with my boy... strict but fair. If I say I will do something or he will get something then that is what will happen. He knows he can trust that. Have you ever had a fire drill at you house? If so then that's a test, no? Don't you trust him?

Understood - I was agreeing with you and expanding on that. Aimed at former prisoners? Could you drop the soap once or twice, for effect?

And I am mindful of that. We have an understanding that when it comes to guns, motorbikes, shop tools, the main road out front, and anything else that can kill him that I am responsible for his staying safe. This is how I choose to reassure myself that he is doing the right thing. I'm open to other ideas. How do you deal with it with your kids? At what age did you let them cross busy roads alone? Or use shop tools? How would your kids react if they found a gun at a friend's house or in the street? (and how do you KNOW that for sure?)

Within reason, of course. You didn't fully understand, or I didn't fully explain. Either way... He *did* succeed in that he didn't touch or play with the gun. He did not get into trouble for not reporting it (that assumption is all on you) - I just asked him to report it if he saw a gun again. My expectations were that he not touch the gun and that he tell me about finding it - that is a perfectly reasonable expectation.

He didn't get into trouble, not at all. In fact he was commended for not touching or playing with it. He explained his reason for not telling me about it, and I accepted that. I asked him to tell the adult in charge if he ever sees a gun out. That was that. Oh, and invitation declined, sorry... Unless you think there's money to me made by posting on youtube with paid ads...

You have a right to that opinion.

I understand your concern.

I thought we were still being civil, Mr Blofeld.

So is that it? Did you all think I film my kid all the time? Because I can understand why THAT would be creepy a shit. Which is why I don't do that....

Sorry, bub. No cameras installed inside the house. Everything is external, and faces only my own property. It was amusing the day my neighbor came over begging for footage when his house was broken into. One week before that, he saw me putting up a camera on that side of the house and demanded it not show his property. Aboslutely his right, of course. I took him inside, printed out the CCTV display of all cameras right there and then and proved no cameras had ever showed his property. He was happy. Until he was broken into. Then I was the bad guy again because "You could have easily tilted that camera up and caught the burglar!!"

I tried the rope ladder but all the windows are above gutters (top floor is 2' smaller on the walls with thindows so there is a small roof section below each window.) Using is would damage the gutter, so I didn't want to test it. And no test = no reliance. But that roof is also a good thing - it wraps around the house in a u-shape so anyone can exit the window and walk to around the outside of the top floor. I'm going to put a proper ladder on the roof so it can be used to climb down. Our street is not busy, but it's travelled very fast and not flat. You can count the hourly traffic on one hand.

I think so. We can pretend to be civil like James Bond and the evil villain as they chat, ignoring the thinly-veiled but ill-founded contempt like an elephant in the corner of the room.

Not how it worked out - he found the camera at the end. ^^ THIS. I only filmed THIS ONE THING. Nothing else.

Good choice.

A lot of you have one big misconception... You think I have a camera on my kid all the time? Is that wehere the creepy thing comes from?? No I don't, not at all. I only used the camera (my gopro) for this one test, so I could see if he touched the gun or not.

This is why I'm here. The plans we had when he was 5 are outdated so we're trying to figure out something new and more age-appropriate.

Fair enough.

No thanks. We bought this house for a reason.

Closest neighbors are 300' away, but they're never around. Next neighbor north is 1/4 mile away and south is 1/2 mile away.

The neighbors are out of town more often than they are home. He may wind up out there alone if my wife and I are trapped by the fire. He's 8 right now, he's not in a position to rescue me or his mom if we are unable to self-rescue. If we are actually human? WTF is that supposed to mean? His instructions are that when the fire alalrm goes off he gets out of the house and doesn't look back. This instructions were designed for him when he was 5 and we first trusted him to be able to unlock the door and exit the house alone. At 5yo he's not in a position to rescue me or fight a fire. Although he has been trained to use a fire extinguisher and had put out real fires with them as part of his training, his intructions are that he only uses the extinguisher in a fire that is stopping him getting out the house. Every room has a fire extinguisher. As a parent I'd rather him escape than die in a futile attempt to save me. Those instructions are under review now he's getting older. My fire plan involves gathering the family and escaping. Every room has two exits - every windows has been checked to make sure it opens correctly and that we can escape that way. The reson I don't want him in the front yard is that we front a 75mph (actual speed) road and emergency vehicles will be arriving and a 5yo running around between them would be dangerous. Again, those plans are changing to take into account the fact that he is older and more responsible now. There is an emergency cellphone in the workshop as well as the home phone, so we can be in shelter, with a bugout bag stored safely that he can get dressed, call 911 (if we didn't have time before leaving the house) and be safe from the elements. Seriously though - if we were human? Where are you going with that?

I have done data mining on publicly-collected data looking for patterns of human behavior. I had to write a report that measure technology export compliance (restricting technology exports to bad countries like Iran / North Korea etc) by mining terabytes of public web logs. You'd be amazed at what companies can do with enough data. And it's really easy to filter out of identify unusual patterns of behavior. If one spot gets pothole reports from 5% of cars going through that area then I'd go look at it. If it gets reports from 5 cars, then I'd ignore it.

Maybe. Would have to be REALLY waterproof. May throw an air horn in there too so if, god forbid, he's the only one who make it out to the meetup then he can attract attention. I also have to consider that if the power is out we couldn't get the workshop door open.

My local fire department offers lock boxes for the FD to use. I guess you put spare keys in there etc. Are they worth it? I figure I could also put a note in there saying where the meet-up place is as well as a floor plan and how many folks stay in each room.