Sorry to hear about your brother.. My father was in a accident on his motorcycle. He was driving up a moving-van ramp and the ramp slipped forcing him to fall to the ground. luckily the bike did not land on him however, he did land as such that he broke his C3-C7 and bruised his C-2. He can "walk" now, but not very well. He does not feel things the way others do. He always feels as if his entire body is asleep. Also, he has very little strength throughout his legs and his feet feel as if they are always cramped. Watching my dad go through life after his accident has been trying, we went to BJ's up in Polaris Saturday and he almost fell from tripping over the carpet. What I/we have found to help in these situations is to encourage a different perception. Even though I know it hurts his self-esteem, we try to laugh about it and move forward. Every time I see him it seems as though things are the same if not worst even though he has had a LOT of surgery's. The thing to press him to remember is that he is not alone. What you need to remember is that you are not alone either. Talk to him, make sure he knows that you are open to him telling you his fears and than tell him yours. Keeping each other supported is very important... Be strong but also allow him to be strong. I hope things get better, your family is in my thoughts and prayers...