haha ok...
my fiance thought the same thing that you did... one of her ex's wanted to meet for coffee... right before they were going to meet up, he made all sorts of comments and then told her that no one would have to know... give me a break..
I think you're giving that guy too much credit... trust me, all we EVER have on our minds is getting some....
and for the record when he said that to her, she told him never to call again and changed her number... that's why I put a ring on this woman's finger... she's great!
I wanted to make sure that I point out that I am in no way accusing you of being a cheater, but I'm just telling you that most guys are pigs and have no problem sleeping with a woman, regardless if she's with someone or in love and I gaurantee that is what was going through your now ex's head... honestly, if you want him back, try to see how he feels and talk to him about it.