it's not really asking... it's making sure that she doesn't have other plans, or whatever... it seems that alot of the time, we use the phrase where it's not really meant the way it sounds. I say, "I gotta ask the boss" all the time... is she my boss or do I have to ask? Hail no... naturally though you should want to be with your family and kids... not out at the bar getting drunk... if you say that you would rather be at the bar then either you aren't ready or should re-evaluate your situation