Your post has confused the hell out of me...I read through it all, and I have read every ones responses. Everyone in this thread is right and wrong in some type of way...
Depending on the insurance company, their policy will state what parts are used for cars falling into a certain year range. A car that is "newer" lets say a year or so will have OEM parts installed. A few year old "newer" car can have aftermarket, recycled, or used parts installed. Im not being specific on year range because each company has a slight difference.
If you are not happy with it, take it back...Dont bitch about it. Just inform them about each item that doesnt seem to be correct.
If anyone or any shop tells you they will bring a car back to dead on factory specs, youve been lied to. I dont know of one shop that put the car back right where its supposed to be. Im talking structural damage.
A shop can get away with a cover being a half a shade off compared to the rest of the car, because of so many variances. Paint does not cure the same was based upon the substrate its is applied to.
Im just throwing that shit out there for you.
If you have issues with alignment simply tell them, you'd like to see the issue fixed.
Most production bodyshops, dealing with insurance companies have there ass on the line everyday. If enough people complain about a particular shops work or quality, the insurance company will pull their contract with that shop.
I could ramble on about many things because I have delt with all of them. If you have any questions shoot a pm and I will help you to the best of my ability.
With all that nut swinging you do, maybe you should have had that guy fix her car.