wnaplay1647545503 Posted May 22, 2014 Report Share Posted May 22, 2014 My wife is having a hard time coping with the diagnosis of cancer, she has all but convinced herself this will take her life. I need to find someone who has had ovarian cancer and is a survivor she can talk to. If anyone knows someone who would be willing to do this please let me know. Thanks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craig71188 Posted May 22, 2014 Report Share Posted May 22, 2014 Sorry I can't help on the ovarian cancer, but I would tell her everyone is different. A little over ten years ago my best friend while in his 40's contracted (what should have been) very treatable colon cancer - it spread despite treatment and we lost him. Fast forward to a little over a year ago and my 82 year old mother-in-law was also diagnosed with colon cancer and a major tumor on her liver (listed as "class 4" liver cancer). After her treatment she has been in remission for over 6 months and counting. Science, doctors, whatever - each person is different and I personally believe in a positive attitude and faith. The truth is it might take her life - then again, she may respond to treatment and be in remission for years to come. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Green Bastard Posted May 23, 2014 Report Share Posted May 23, 2014 ^ what he said. I had a great uncle that had an inoperable brain tumor, they gave him 6 months, he lived 6 weeks. A guy my dad worked with was diagnosed with the same thing and given the same estimate, he should have died 15 years ago. Tell her to remember that will is a big part of the battle even though it is a scary thing. I hope she does good. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Benner Posted May 23, 2014 Report Share Posted May 23, 2014 A friend of my wifes is an Overian Cancer survivor. And she just gave birth to a little girl a couple of weeks ago despite believing she may never. I'll try and talk to her and see if she'd be willing to talk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zeitgeist57 Posted May 23, 2014 Report Share Posted May 23, 2014 Jason, who is the doctor that she is seeing, or what hospital system? I know someone that has survived cervical cancer, but you should look into Ovarian Cancer Alliance... http://ocao.org Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrs.cos Posted May 23, 2014 Report Share Posted May 23, 2014 She needs a good support group. Her feelings need some validation of her fears- but support on the positive side as well. Her doctors should have this info as well. (Support groups that is) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
verse Posted May 23, 2014 Report Share Posted May 23, 2014 (edited) My mom battled breast cancer on and off for 19-20 years. The last time she basically gave up and was gone shortly after that. Remind her of your children, possible grand children, they need her to fight even if she wants to give up all hope. Edited May 23, 2014 by verse Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Orion Posted May 23, 2014 Report Share Posted May 23, 2014 (edited) I was diagnosed with Melanoma as a 9 year old, and a surgery saved me after some radiation treatments. My mother had cancer 8 times, including lung cancer twice. Feeling doomed is natural for a time. Like grieving, there is a process to dealing with the diagnosis, and it is a little different for everyone. My advice to you would be to call someone at the James, or Zangmeister and have this exact conversation with them...they have folks on staff who do exactly this for patients. In case anyone was wondering, it's been 24 years since my diagnosis, and I'm still alive. My mom lived to be 61, after beating the shit out of a "Mike Tyson's Punch Out"'s worth of different cancers. Edited May 23, 2014 by Orion Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jeffro Posted May 23, 2014 Report Share Posted May 23, 2014 (edited) Sorry I can't help on the ovarian cancer, but I would tell her everyone is different. A little over ten years ago my best friend while in his 40's contracted (what should have been) very treatable colon cancer - it spread despite treatment and we lost him. Fast forward to a little over a year ago and my 82 year old mother-in-law was also diagnosed with colon cancer and a major tumor on her liver (listed as "class 4" liver cancer). After her treatment she has been in remission for over 6 months and counting. Science, doctors, whatever - each person is different and I personally believe in a positive attitude and faith. The truth is it might take her life - then again, she may respond to treatment and be in remission for years to come. My father was diagnosed with stage 4 liver cancer in 2011 at age 51. It eventually spread to his liver in 2012. After 24 months of treatment there are no detectable cancer cells in his body now. Edited May 23, 2014 by jeffro Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BBQdDude Posted May 23, 2014 Report Share Posted May 23, 2014 PMd Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JaSSon Posted May 23, 2014 Report Share Posted May 23, 2014 Jeffro gets it. Jason needs people that beat it and are still alive, or beat it and lived until 85 and died of natural causes. Stories of people who only survived 6 weeks are going to drive her into a depression, and you're not helping her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HotCarl Posted May 23, 2014 Report Share Posted May 23, 2014 She needs a good support group. Her feelings need some validation of her fears- but support on the positive side as well. Her doctors should have this info as well. (Support groups that is) THIS. There are support groups out there and I'm sure whatever hospital system you are in will have the information you need. From what i understand a support group can have people at varying stages of treatment in it so that will help her see all sides of it. Goodluck man i'll keep you and your family in my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gillbot Posted May 23, 2014 Report Share Posted May 23, 2014 The American cancer society can help, contact them. My mom was diagnosed with breast cancer and she got down, but they helped pull her up and she's cancer free so far! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smokin5s Posted May 26, 2014 Report Share Posted May 26, 2014 dude, she's gotta convince herself that she wants to keep fighting.... remind her of her kids and push her to fight... I'm sure she can beat this! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LS_Sonoma Posted May 28, 2014 Report Share Posted May 28, 2014 I just completed a regiment of Rituxan for stage 2 non-hodgkins lymphoma. The beginning was very scary because of all of the horror stories associated with cancer. When it comes right down to it, when caught early most cancers are non-life threatening and are very easily treatable. What most people forget is that we live in a modern age of surgery and nuclear medicines. In fact, I actually looked forward to visiting the treatment center. It was a break from life and a chance to socialize, haha. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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