r6allstar Posted May 10, 2011 Report Share Posted May 10, 2011 My fiance and I had our baby last November. We are still together and live together but since we are not married yet, and my son is receiving health insurance from the State, I am being forced to pay child support. I am fine with having to pay it, mostly b/c me paying for support and him being able to receive full insurance is worth it to me, contrary to him going on my insurance which is ridiculously expensive and doesn't cover much. Anyway, I have the hearing at the child support office this Friday. Not sure what to expect. Am sure someone here has dealt with it. Anything good to know ahead of time? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shittygsxr Posted May 10, 2011 Report Share Posted May 10, 2011 Or man up to your responsibilities, do you want us to send you money directly? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
standout Posted May 10, 2011 Report Share Posted May 10, 2011 (edited) Your screwed. I could write pages about how your gonna get screwed. There is no preparing.Oh and one piece of advice is ask to see if u can do an agreed decision were u and her come to a conclusion on the amount and not go thru all the paperwork. In your case that may not be an option. Edited May 10, 2011 by standout Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
siggywiggy Posted May 10, 2011 Report Share Posted May 10, 2011 Or man up to your responsibilities, do you want us to send you money directly? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shadyone Posted May 10, 2011 Report Share Posted May 10, 2011 I would say that since its your fiance and you live together you might be able to get out of it. but if not you can probably agree to a price and make it like 10 bucks a week or something stupid.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Likwid Posted May 10, 2011 Report Share Posted May 10, 2011 Anyone else disturbed by how quickly the responses went south. He asked "what to expect" not "how do I get out of paying" or "why should I have to pay".w/e Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
idodishez Posted May 10, 2011 Report Share Posted May 10, 2011 I want my child support! Oh that's right, I'm the dad so let's just let her off her responsibility. She's having a rough time and all, what with being on welfare, food stamps, disability, husband on unemployment, etc.Oh sorry, this wasn't about me was it?Rant off Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
idodishez Posted May 10, 2011 Report Share Posted May 10, 2011 Anyone else disturbed by how quickly the responses went south. He asked "what to expect" not "how do I get out of paying" or "why should I have to pay".w/eI believe the Southern direction is based on our tax dollars paying for his sons insurance rather than him paying for it.Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Helmutt Posted May 10, 2011 Report Share Posted May 10, 2011 (edited) My ex filed against me after we split - but we weren't married, and the only reason I had to pay was because my ex pursued it.......the 4 years prior to that ( and we WERE living together ), I didn't have to pay anything and my ex had been getting WIC support as well -- so I'm assuming that due to insurance premiums the state's incurring is why they're going after you for support.......we all know how the states are, if it costs them.....it's gonna cost us.That being said, you're in a bit of a different boat than I was........I'm not sure of the criteria involved when the STATE files against the father -- The only thing I do know is that your support payments will be affected by how much you make vs. how much your fiance' makes........So, if she makes close to the same as you do and you're in the $30k per year neighborhood, expect your weekly payments to be in the $60-$90 a week range ( it's a pretaxed deduction of course, so there's no claiming it ) and CSEA ( Child Support Enforcement Agency ) will get a cut of that each week - all in all, you'll throw away $40 or $50 a month on processing fee's but you're son is going to have decent health coverage for that $40 or $50 too -- well worth it if you ask me.MAKE SURE YOU DO NOT MISS PAYMENTS!! I was told by my lawyer that if you miss 5 or 6 payments within 1 years time collectively, the state can come and take you away to jail -- even if you can only make a $5/week payment, make sure to send SOMETHING every week to keep them off your back - but anything you don't pay will go to "arrears" and stack up against you........Best of luck!!! Edited May 10, 2011 by Hellmutt Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shittygsxr Posted May 10, 2011 Report Share Posted May 10, 2011 I believe the Southern direction is based on our tax dollars paying for his sons insurance rather than him paying for it.Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalkcorrect! $10 says they push back the wedding so that she can start or keep collecting WIC Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Disclaimer Posted May 10, 2011 Report Share Posted May 10, 2011 Threads like this make me want to vote Republican. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Likwid Posted May 10, 2011 Report Share Posted May 10, 2011 Threads like this make me want to vote Republican.Threads like this make me want to punch puppies and kick babies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Disclaimer Posted May 10, 2011 Report Share Posted May 10, 2011 Threads like this make me want to punch puppies and kick babiesI thought I just said that. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tonik Posted May 10, 2011 Report Share Posted May 10, 2011 (edited) Anything good to know ahead of time?Jesus man, get a lawyer. Not because I think you want to get out...sounds like you are taking care of business. But you can't just show up and let the State decide what to do all on their own. Even if it is a mutual lawyer to represent both you and the Fiance you need a lawyer.Basically it works like this. You make X amount of money. The mother makes Y amount of money. They add up X and Y and that puts you in a category. Based upon that category you spend 400 dollars per month on your child (just making up 400....the number changes based upon total income). If your income is 75 percent of the total income...then you pay 75 percent of that that category amount, so using my 400 dollar example you pay 300 per month. Edited May 10, 2011 by Tonik Too many paragraph breaks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big3 Posted May 11, 2011 Report Share Posted May 11, 2011 Or do like I did get custody & make her pay you support...wtf! I get $50 a MONTH Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flounder Posted May 11, 2011 Report Share Posted May 11, 2011 Sense, this thread makes none.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gump Posted May 11, 2011 Report Share Posted May 11, 2011 Being sarcastic....give the kid up for adoption...would they still go after the father?What to expect? Expect charts and rules unless your wife says she only wants this amount but the insurance situation screws it all up. Before all that Don't give up your constitutional right as a parent. aka one person or the other has parental custody, aka shared parenting which is BS. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bmwnut Posted May 11, 2011 Report Share Posted May 11, 2011 This is why this country is where it isevery body wants the goverment to thke care of themIf you had the balls to make a baby MAN UP and pay for itdon't expect the goverment to support you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cbrbrent Posted May 11, 2011 Report Share Posted May 11, 2011 You better take a lawyer you are going to court. The state is going to go for max. Im glad you are taking care of your child though Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
600ZZ4eb Posted May 11, 2011 Report Share Posted May 11, 2011 just hit the court house the get hitched right before the child support hearing....case dismissed. :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cbrbrent Posted May 11, 2011 Report Share Posted May 11, 2011 just hit the court house the get hitched right before the child support hearing....case dismissed. :-)This would be the best Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mykill Posted May 11, 2011 Report Share Posted May 11, 2011 It would make sense but he does not want to get married because he will have to pay health insurance on his kid. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gump Posted May 11, 2011 Report Share Posted May 11, 2011 Off topic but if you're bored read this. http://www.exiledfathers.org/constitutional_right_to_be_a_parent Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anden Posted May 11, 2011 Report Share Posted May 11, 2011 Been and done this. If the child is receiving assistance your support will go toward offsetting his benefit. You will pay support plus insurance.Oh by the way in your papers it probably says you need not show up this is a desk review. It will be sent through the court system after they figure what they want you to pay. Once they decide you may owe back support from the date papers are filed. I was behind $1000 by the time the figured it till it was made official.If the child is handicapped this will also offset any federal benefit child may receive. Or get married you won't pay support but you both combined may make too much for assistance. My child receives all but two dollars a week that I pay in. And the insurance that I pay to the state is much cheaper than here at work. 85 a month compared to 170 a week. I DO NOT complain about what my child gets from me he deserves every penny. It's not his fault his mother and I don't get along.It's tough being a young parent without a career. Hang in there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
r6allstar Posted May 11, 2011 Author Report Share Posted May 11, 2011 (edited) Or man up to your responsibilities, do you want us to send you money directly?Obviously you didn't read anything posted originally, so I am not going to address you being a dipshit. I quoted the important parts for you this time so that you don't get too confused and skip straight to the response of quite being a dead-beat dad.... I am fine with having to pay it, mostly b/c me paying for support and him being able to receive full insurance is worth it to me, contrary to him going on my insurance which is ridiculously expensive and doesn't cover much.... Not sure what to expect. Am sure someone here has dealt with it. Anything good to know ahead of time?Anyone else disturbed by how quickly the responses went south. He asked "what to expect" not "how do I get out of paying" or "why should I have to pay".w/eYea, maybe we both missed somethingcorrect! $10 says they push back the wedding so that she can start or keep collecting WICSee above.. Sense, this thread makes none..What needs to be clarified? I am asking how the process works for people who have gone through Child Support hearings. Been and done this. If the child is receiving assistance your support will go toward offsetting his benefit. You will pay support plus insurance.Oh by the way in your papers it probably says you need not show up this is a desk review. It will be sent through the court system after they figure what they want you to pay. Once they decide you may owe back support from the date papers are filed. I was behind $1000 by the time the figured it till it was made official.If the child is handicapped this will also offset any federal benefit child may receive. Or get married you won't pay support but you both combined may make too much for assistance. My child receives all but two dollars a week that I pay in. And the insurance that I pay to the state is much cheaper than here at work. 85 a month compared to 170 a week. I DO NOT complain about what my child gets from me he deserves every penny. It's not his fault his mother and I don't get along.It's tough being a young parent without a career. Hang in there.Finally, a real answer. Thanks Edited May 11, 2011 by r6allstar Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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