i have a 9 year old. she talks about boys but doesn't have a boyfriend. she has friends that are boys. Hell i took him to the bike show with her. My daughter is a tomboy though. she goes riding with them. she has a quad, they have dirtbikes. She has a phone, but she gets it when she is not with us, say grandmas or a friends house. she doesn't even use then either. she has it so we can call her. she does txt her girlfriends but asks to do so. Shes at the, "i like jim, hes cute, but don't tell him that" stage. I can see it being hard that she is outta state, i'd be freakin out too.