My parents were strict...I rebelled my brother didn't (each child will respond diffrent. Age personality makes a diffrence). My parents use to test us and we usually did what was right. I am thankful they did now I use those skills to teach kid. I do tape the notes back together so I know what she is up to. I trust her to do what is right on her own its when she is with friends I worry. I think what you did was great and gives me a few ideas. I am greatful for parents like you, 1 more educated child.