My 2 cents.
Hanguns are extremely subjective. I like all types to some degree, but it seems I am more comfotable w/ autos. My roommate is the exact opposite, preferring Revolvers to Autos. Although both of us shoot either respectably, I chose an auto for carry and he chose a revolver. I have to agree that the simple design of the revolver makes me more sure that each squeeze of the trigger will ALWAYS make a boom, although for me I just had to shop more carefully for a reliable auto that I like. Initially I was going to go w/ an Airweight S&W but found it difficult to manage followup shots w/ any degree of accuracy, even though it looked like a clear winner "on paper" (size/weight/power)
Anyway..I'm rambling. I found the best way to find a gun you really like is to try alot of them. Just handling them at the store is a good start to narrow the field, then rent some of the "finalists" (if you can in your area...) New Albany Shooter's Supply is a good place as well as the afforementioned range in Lancaster, to see if you can actually shoot them well. I was surprised to find that I really liked and shot the Kahr P9 very well. I had never really been a fan of the looks so much, but form over function is the key I guess.