Sorry, Matt. As someone who's lost all 4 grandparents, both parents, and lotsa friends, I wish I could tell you it gets easier, but... I just go with the thought that there's not a whole heck of a lot you can do about it. You can sit around and mope (not that you are, but just in general), wish it didn't happen, or you can get on with living and enjoy those that you love, and let them know that you love them. Hope that makes sense. As for Mr. and ex-Mrs. Clapper: Wow. Dude needs to chill. Be angry/bitter some other time.