So Mom can get the fucking tattoo for herself' date=' and when the daughter becomes of age and may want ink to match her Mom.......let the Girl make that decision. And yeah ink is pretty much permanent, the procedures to remove are [u']painful, long and expensive. Her heart is not in the right place, and her head is obviously up her ass. If that is how the Mom wants to mourn and or remember her Husband than so be it, leave the kid out of it.