Ouch! Well I know it may be out of the question to cancel now, but after reading this, it may not be a bad idea. Even if you were able to come up with the $20K for them or they got it themselves, there seems to be more then just money problems. So even though they would have this very nice wedding, it sounds like there are some other issues that need to be addressed that money CAN’T fix. I don’t know the details of the situation and I don’t know the people involved so I’m not trying to pass judgment but maybe letting things cool down and re-organize might be better in the long run. This is a very important event in both their lives, no reason it can’t or shouldn’t be just right. Either way I hope everything works out for them. I sympathize with your situation my best friend was going through a ruff time and it didn’t seem like I could help him out much either. The only thing I could do was just stand by him and give him all the support and help with what I could, that’s a tuff feeling.