Popular Post 2talltim Posted January 30, 2013 Popular Post Report Share Posted January 30, 2013 (edited) Well my boy came home from school today and had 3 Indian arrowheads with the story that they had a speaker today that brought some in and showed his class and talked about local native americans. And when he went out for resess he found these 3 on the hill side by the school. Ok i knew it was a bs story to begin with but also these 3 he had were all polished and very clean.After i bit of clever conversation on my behalf i got him to admit that he stole them out of a container the guy passed around for everyone to look at. Our plan is to get this guys contact info from the school and make my son return them to him personally with a apology, plus as i type he is in the kitchen writing out a written apology as well, in addition he is loosing his allowance and cant not play with any or his video games, computer or favorite toys for 2 weeks. Plus i had a good long talk to him about stealing and what happens to thieves, and ask if he would want someone to steal his stuff.Do you guys think my punishment is enough, what else cant i do? He is only 9 but i want to nip this shit in the bud right now. Two of the things i cant stand the most is a liar and thief, and i want my son to know this type of behavior is not going to fly.Thoughts? Edited January 30, 2013 by 2talltim 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kmanlyst Posted January 30, 2013 Report Share Posted January 30, 2013 Sir I think you have done plenty well on the punishment.+rep for damn good parenting. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
madcat6183 Posted January 30, 2013 Report Share Posted January 30, 2013 I think the biggest thing is going through with the apology and making him handle dealing with the school and owner. Obviously if the school hears about this they have the right to deal with him there too, but I also feel your punishment at home is just and correct.Good parenting here, maybe some of the people on the news can learn something. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
max power Posted January 30, 2013 Report Share Posted January 30, 2013 Sounds like you got it covered to me. Make him look the man in the eye and apologize. He will never forget it.Kids do dumb shit, you caught it, dealt with it and the boy will most likely never do it again. BTW, thanks for the new sickest line ever typed on OR: He is only 9 but i want to nip this shit in the butt right now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2talltim Posted January 30, 2013 Author Report Share Posted January 30, 2013 \ BTW, thanks for the new sickest line ever typed on OR: Butt/Bud ..same difference..fixed it but yea that was funny:lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Chief201 Posted January 30, 2013 Report Share Posted January 30, 2013 my parents would have beat my a$$. My son I'd probably do similar to you maybe make him clean up dog crap with his hands as an added bonus. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JackFlash Posted January 30, 2013 Report Share Posted January 30, 2013 At his age, I think this will work. Tell him if it ever happens again, you will donate some of his favorite computer games and toys to kids that are less fortunate and he will go with you when you do it.. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2talltim Posted January 30, 2013 Author Report Share Posted January 30, 2013 my parents would have beat my a$$. My son I'd probably do similar to you maybe make him clean up dog crap with his hands as an added bonus.My kids do get their asses whipped every now and then, but the way this played out and the fact that he did admit it to me with out it going too far i felt it wasn't needed on this occasion. Basicly his coming clean saved him from a ass bruising. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2talltim Posted January 30, 2013 Author Report Share Posted January 30, 2013 At his age, I think this will work. Tell him if it ever happens again, you will donate some of his favorite computer games and toys to kids that are less fortunate and he will go with you when you do it..i like this Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Revelstoker Posted January 30, 2013 Report Share Posted January 30, 2013 Age? First time offense, you are probably fine.The only time my brother and I got a belt taken to our behinds is when all the talking wouldn't stop us from stealing candy.This was back in the days when candy was often single pieces and in bins. It was a challenge to see if we could get away with it but the sore ass quickly defined that getting caught was not worth the risk. Game over! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jbot Posted January 30, 2013 Report Share Posted January 30, 2013 definitely cut off his hands Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2talltim Posted January 30, 2013 Author Report Share Posted January 30, 2013 definitely cut off his hands and cauterize with hot iron and a blow torch...im on it:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BadTrainDriver Posted January 30, 2013 Report Share Posted January 30, 2013 Still to this day I remember stealing a pack of gum from the check out line at Big Bear with my mom...I was probably around the same age...Once in the car, my mom saw me chewing gum, and asked where it came from. She was smart...she already knew I stole it.It was a long walk and an embarrassing talk with the store manager to tell him I stole the gum.30 years later...I remember it like it was yesterday...You're handling this the right way! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmh_sprint Posted January 30, 2013 Report Share Posted January 30, 2013 Right in line with what i would have and have done with my boys. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
imaposer Posted January 30, 2013 Report Share Posted January 30, 2013 At his age, I think this will work. Tell him if it ever happens again, you will donate some of his favorite computer games and toys to kids that are less fortunate and he will go with you when you do it..No, that will teach him that donating and giving to the less fortunate is punishment. Wrong message to send. I made my son take his favorite game, break the disk in half and put it on his wall when he did something stupid at that age. Hell, I don't even remember the reason any more. I wonder if it worked. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cOoTeR Posted January 30, 2013 Report Share Posted January 30, 2013 At his age, I think this will work. Tell him if it ever happens again, you will donate some of his favorite computer games and toys to kids that are less fortunate and he will go with you when you do it..This will teach him about the welfare system at an early age. He will learn that he should either be in the top 5% when it comes to wealth or the bottom end. If hes in the middle class he will be punished for the income he makes to give to the bottom end. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OsuMj Posted January 30, 2013 Report Share Posted January 30, 2013 Still to this day I remember stealing a pack of gum from the check out line at Big Bear with my mom...I was probably around the same age...Once in the car, my mom saw me chewing gum, and asked where it came from. She was smart...she already knew I stole it.It was a long walk and an embarrassing talk with the store manager to tell him I stole the gum.30 years later...I remember it like it was yesterday...You're handling this the right way!I accidentally walked out of a store with a candy bar in my hand (really actually didn't mean to steal it), and my dad pointed it out to me, realized it was an accident, and still sent me back in... I was so embarrassed, I wouldn't have even thought about purposely stealing something, especially after that! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jblosser Posted January 30, 2013 Report Share Posted January 30, 2013 9? Punishment seems fair to me.Only thing I'd add is to tell him/reinforce that his telling the truth was a very good thing and saved him from harsher punishment."If ya screw up, it's a lot better to come clean immediately; lies will only make it worse".Once he hands the loot over and apologizes, let it go. Over and done with. Take him to the workshop, garage, do something father-son. That way he knows you still love him and all that flowery crap. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NinjaNick Posted January 30, 2013 Report Share Posted January 30, 2013 Hell, I stole as a kid growing up. Baseball cards, Garbage pale kids cards, etc...from stores though and not a person. I was just sorry I got caught. You can punish, just like I got my ass beat and grounded, but I just learned what I did wrong to get caught from it. I didn't steal much but I did my fair share growing up.Today...I HATE THIEVES. I couldn't bring myself to steal anything. My conscience is a good one as an adult. Kids will be kids. They truly won't understand until they have to work for a living IMO. Which is why most thieves don't have jobs...they never knew the feeling of hard work.I would definitely punish by grounding for sure though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pokey Posted January 30, 2013 Report Share Posted January 30, 2013 Still to this day I remember stealing a pack of gum from the check out line at Big Bear with my mom...I was probably around the same age...Once in the car, my mom saw me chewing gum, and asked where it came from. She was smart...she already knew I stole it.It was a long walk and an embarrassing talk with the store manager to tell him I stole the gum.30 years later...I remember it like it was yesterday...You're handling this the right way!I liked the story better about the big bad Marine that was home on leave and swore in front of his Mother while in the car. Pretty sure she threw a backhand arcoss his mouth, and the big ass diamond ring on her finger chipped his tooth. Big bad Marine shed a little tear, and is scared of his Mother to this day. To the OP, I think you handled this very well.......KUDOS to you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NinjaNick Posted January 30, 2013 Report Share Posted January 30, 2013 Taking it back though I wouldn't want my kid to do. Many people "THESE DAYS" would press charges and all hell breaks loose. I would just take it from my kid and throw it in the trash. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hwilli Posted January 30, 2013 Report Share Posted January 30, 2013 definitely cut off his handsbeat me too it fucker. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cme2c Posted January 30, 2013 Report Share Posted January 30, 2013 Excellent fathering 2talltim. Did the same thing with our 2 daughters who got in a fist fight on the school bus many years ago. Made them go straight to the bus driver and apologize face to face. They NEVER got in trouble again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chevysoldier Posted January 30, 2013 Report Share Posted January 30, 2013 Good for you, I think its just right. Like max said, make him man up and look him in the eye. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anden Posted January 30, 2013 Report Share Posted January 30, 2013 Yep its that age. I will let slingingchic tell the story. Its a good one too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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