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bandit12 Experienced

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only thing i can think of is if there is any equity in the house witch is half hers they might go after that, and her bike witch is worth a couple g's they can have that thing(lol). Everything else in in my name:D

LOL, you start talking about the wife here and then it happens. You picked a hell of a time to use the wrong which, lol.

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LOL, you start talking about the wife here and then it happens. You picked a hell of a time to use the wrong which, lol.

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she's the educated one in the house:o..but thats funny as hell:lol:..but thats why i drive for a living and not teach intermediate school. If you ever notice 90% of my post are edited, becuase i know im a idiot

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Scruit Grand Master

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There is no such thing as "my" name when you get married, its "our" name now my friend. Find me a recent case where the guy actually got the good end of the divorce?

But this changes if one of you dies, then the state says the exact opposite. My grandpa just fought for my grandmas life insurance money but since she never made a will he was screwed out of all the money he had been paying into her life insurance for years. Apparently it doesn't matter that they had been married for 50 years.

Who was the listed beneficiary on the insurance?

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Gump Grand Master

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Y'all need to create a living trust if you want your money to follow your bloodline and avoid probate. Get a lawyer. If your married to someone with someone else's kids you can make sure it goes to yours, or whoever,avoid estate taxes, capital gains tax, you can actually create a LLC of your estate for other creative tax dodging purposes. A will kinda works but a trust is best.

And Tim you're screwed in worst case scenario. Whose name it's in when purchased or debt incurred while married it don't matter one of you is liable if the other dies. Gifts while married is different unless real property. O and your 401k contributions while married are hers also in event of divorce but hers are also yours. Value u had before marriage is still yours but not cumulative.

Get a lawyer, protect your shit, Marriage license is like a business license when it comes to money. Treat it as such.

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When my girlfriend and I got a house together after dating 5 years I made sure I could afford it without her in case anything happened. I put the house in only my name and when she contributed money toward the down payment I had her sign a document that it was a gift to me and not directly for the down payment. Even though it all went to the down payment I always make sure my ass is covered. Also, when she contributed to the monthly payments I recorded it as rent and not a house payment.

Long story short.. she cheated on me with her boss at Sears. I found out. I kicked her out. She is back living with her parents.

Even though it's only me paying all the bills, I end up with more money to save at the end of the month. She spent way more than she made. I am a minimalist, she was not.

After being broken up 8 or 9 months I am much happier and much healthier (mentally and physically). You tend to forget how much you enjoyed hanging out with friends. Some of you are lucky though, and married your best friend :) Hopefully us single people will all get to do the same.

Moral of the story... The way I see it, you can always plan for the worst.

And just to add... Her boss at Sears was married with a kid and 11 years older than her (she was 20). When we broke up she quickly found out he had no plans on leaving his marriage for her and stopped talking to her.

Another thing I learned from all this...

While dating her I had stopped talking to a lot of my good friends for a few years and focused only on her. When we broke up they showed up at my house and talked with me for a few hours then took me out to have some fun. So now I know, your true friends will always be there for you, and you always make sure you are there for them.

4 months later my best friend had his long term gf cheat on him and they broke up. I returned the favor and showed up at his house and took him out for a good time.

edit: Sorry this doesn't read well,lol. I'm at work and kept going back to it while I did other things

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2talltim Grand Master

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When I got married I was unemployed and hadn't a penny to my name. Same with my wife. No prenup needed there. ;)

same here i was layed off and she was working for pizza hut..lol..plus we were in the hole for 2 cars with neg equity

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A (sadly) true tale of warning and woe....

Buddy of mine met a girl online. He was in a little bit of debt to begin with, about $15k maybe on credit cards. But while engaged he got a small inheritance and promptly spent it all on a nicer engagement ring. (About what I paid for my car, which was 2 years old). That money could have taken him out of debt.

Once they were married he come to find out she was in about 100k student loan debt, among other things. They tried to find a way of helping her reduce that debt. In the meantime he co-signed on a brand new car for her ($55k car, $10k upside-down in her prior car, $65k loan at 9%)

Then she suggested they refinance her debt into joint names and get a lower rate. They did, and got a huge break on the previously borderline-criminal rates - but to get the best rate she told him the refi had to be in his name only.

Then she left him. Within months. Moved to another state with no warning, just gone.

One her way out of the state she used his credit card (which she was an authorized user of, but not responsible for paying for) to buy her adult daughter a car, and prepaid her divorce attorney $7k.

Finally, she said she was going to filed for dissolutionment and demanded half of the equity on his house (there was none, she came to find out, interest-only loan), half his 401k balance, and half the value of HIS car (worth $4k) while KEEPING the $55k car. Which she quit paying on, but the bank couldn't reach her so they came to him for the $900/mo back-payments and fees, after her skipping 3 months and him not being notified.

When he got his own lawyer (a few more thousand $$$) and told her to pound sand she stopped responding to him. Her lawyer lost contact with her (kept the prepaid money, of course).

SHE wanted to file in HER state and make him travel to each hearing (or hire a local lawyer) to make him fighting the divorce more costly and make him more open to compromise. His lawyer, though, advised him to file in Ohio first, for the same tactical reason. He got his petition files one day earlier than hers, so hers was later dismissed by the court in her state in deference to the Ohio divorce.

She never responded to the Ohio divorce again. After some time the judge granted the divorce on his terms - buddy keeps everything that she didn't already take.

The $55k car was repo'd by the bank and he wound up owing about $30k on that after the car was auctioned. He still had to pay her $100k in student loans because he refi'd them into his name, he owes on his credit cards and he never got the $20k ring back.

He tried to file for bankruptcy, but found he $100k would NOT be discharged because they are student loans.

His credit score is about 390 now, he owes about $150k.

When she left the state it was to go be with a guy that she'd been seeing all the time she was married. Hint: Unemployed people don't go on business trips.

This all transpired over 18 months.

"I ain't saying she a gold digger...."

You have some very depressing stories! Hope the sex was worth it for 18 months,

Because she was one expensive hooker! I was waiting to read oh and she gave him herpgonasiliaids.

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You have some very depressing stories! Hope the sex was worth it for 18 months,

Because she was one expensive hooker! I was waiting to read oh and she gave him herpgonasiliaids.

Can't comment on the sex, but she had a face like a hippo's ass if that answers your question.

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Im being 100 percent serious, this is why she took advantage of you and is still taking advantage of you. Dont let her continue to play you as a fool. Send her a message and be like that stuff needs out now. After a nice warning either put it all out in the rain or burn it

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